To cut a long story short, i started talking to this girl on through text before Xmas, we i took her out on a first date we went to watch a movie of her choice and then went for a meal after it seemed to go ok. She persponed the second date a number of times, i didnt pressure her at all, as she seems to be quite busy alot of the time the whole time she was saying that she does want to see me again. We eventually had a second date she came to my house, we chilled watched a movie and at about 12 she fell asleep in my arms i could have physically escalated better but at the time i was stupid, this date seemed to go quite well and as soon as she left she said "we should defo do it again soon. We were meant to meet up a couple of days ago, but the fell through because she was working late. Heres the problem she was always usually really chatty with me via text and we spoke alot but all of a sudden she stoped being so "chatty" and it seemed like she is less interested. re-initiated contact by saying "I reckon we should do something next week" and she responded "yeah definatly, but not this week the week after" im not sure whether she is generally still interested or just stringing me along because she is definatly not as chatty and why the week gap if she has already persponed it? If anyone can shed some light on this situation i would appreciate it alot! any advice on when to re-initiate contact would be helpfull?

This situation isn't so foreign to me or to many guys I am sure. Girls are often confused themselves and therefore make you confused as well. This can be due to many reasons. You have to understand the reason this girl decided to be with you and devote time to you is because she has some interest in you. In her mind so far you have the value of a man she's looking for. When time passes by and you don't make any serious moves or move forward she reassess the value you have and gets confused. She thinks " is this guy really what I think he is" "why isn't he kissing me etc.." and she gets confused. As a man your role in a relationship is to be a leader. When the leaders people are confused he must take control of the situation and direct his followers in the right direction. So in practical terms, she's confused! You have to let her know that your her bf or whatever and you have to show it. Be aggressive next time with her. Not in the sense of angry, but rather play with her pick her up, tell her what YOU BOTH are doing today, etc... Meaning take control of the situation, lead her, and sexually escalate. Like this she's not confused anymore and you're not confused either.

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thanks for the help i think i understand the situation alot better know. I mean i really like this girl so you think its still salvagable? she said to me she wants to hang out sometime next week when do you think it would be good to re-initiate contact?

Best time to contact her would be when you feel you're not contacting her from neediness but rather from a laid back and fun feeling. When you feel pumped, hyper, just had good news etc... Once you get enough experience you'll be able to create these feelings anytime anywhere. The main thing is not to be needy be a laid back guy who always has an alternative and things will run smooth.

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ok right so she said she definatly wants to do something next week, i am currently doing my exams and i finnish my last one on thursday and seeing as its the following week she wants to hang do you think it would be a good idea to contact her then with something like "good news i just finnished my last exam "?

or would it be better to say something along the line of "where have you been hiding?"