i dont know why but i just feel like shit because im a virgin, like its a incomplete part of be that should of been filled long ago (pardon the pun)

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Experience is what you get when you didn't get what you wanted.

Showing doubt in yourself over something so superficial only further reflects as to why you are.
I lost my virginity young compared to most, and honestly I can't say I'm any better nor worse for it.
So age doesn't matter, as long as you get it done within your lifetime (legally may I add ;D jokes jokes) your fine.
Don't rush something that is supposed to happen naturally.

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The absence of evidence is not evidence of absence.

It's not about whether you've physically done it, it's about whether you've been good enough for any decent-looking girl to have sex with you. If you have been good enough for at least one decent-looking girl to want to have sex with you (and actually go through with it), then you're sitting pretty. If you haven't had sex, that means you're currently not good enough for decent-looking girls, and you need to massively improve.

The worst part of being a virgin isn't the physical part, it's simply that it means no-one has wanted you so far, and the longer that goes on, how are you supposed to be confident that anyone will ever want you? :S

Your missing one of the major points of this site, you are NEVER supposed to feel like you should improve so a woman should want you.
Your mindset should be "women should want me because I'm a great guy.
and if she doesn't want me? Well that's her loss."
Self confidence is Key.

It isn't alpha male behavior if you don't think like that. You should improve upon yourself because you want to do it for you, no other reason. Not even the sex.

No one is going to get laid if they are being a depressive mope over it.
E/o/s.

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The absence of evidence is not evidence of absence.

I recently lost mine and i can say it got from bad to worse for a while but i got over it. I, as well as you, used to think that my life was incomplete, like a missing piece in the puzzle. I used to somewhat look up to other guys who had sex because, well, they were "complete". I was very depressed about it.

Then i had sex, again, and again, and the epiphany didn't come. I thought to myself "holy shit this ain't special at all", and i felt like i had no purpose in life. Like there was no obstacle or imaginary hurdle to leap over. No goal. Virginity, the last barrier had been breached (pun intended). Felt like there was nothing worth fighting over. Felt depressed again.

So i slowly realized what life (and PUA) is all about. Improving oneself. Not for women. Not for other people. But for yourself. Improve yourself in every aspect of your life, like sports, art, social skills, work, anything that drives you.

TLDR: Sex is a minor detail in your life and it shouldn't be a defining characteristic of yours. Don't stress about it. If it happens, good. If it doesn't, just as well.

I a m one to but i dont feel ashamed well simply because i am religious but a part of me do like to get rid of it but in my society sex before marriage is considered a crime so

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Learn to advance.

I think he means improve your game.
Massively improve your game so you get more girls to be in your life.

As for the virgin part, I didnt lose it till 19, but then again the girl was smoking hot Sort of sets the standard :p

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You'll regret a 100% of the shots you don't take.

I lost mine at mid 13, but as one of the previous posters shows, losing your virginity can heavily depend on where you live.
I live in a small hick town where most of the other guys are fat hicks.
And the women are preppy whores.

In other words to get laid here you need NO GAME.
Which is why I've dedicated my learning to trying to improve my long term relationship game.

Which is much harder here due to said whores.
So those of us who have sex can care less about it most of the time.
And those of us who don't, want it all the time.

Just like some thin people want to be bigger or some bigger people want to be thin.
It is human nature to never be satisfied.
Once you have become satisfied based solely off of confidence, you have surpassed even nature and the sky is the limit!

Cheers!

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The absence of evidence is not evidence of absence.

Why would you be ashamed for being a virgin? We all start as virgins. why would you mind?

Besides: i wonder amigo, you are the one who wanted the lunchdate with that HB10 at school, i believe it was on a friday. How did that end? i am curious.

cheers and keep your head up (pun intended ).

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Like the naked leads the blind.
I know I'm selfish, I'm unkind.
Sucker love I always find,
Someone to bruise and leave behind.
placebo - every me, every you

I think guys put way too much pressure on themselves with the whole virginity. I lost mine at 19 and I'm pretty sure that's more closer to the average than 14-15 (which it seemed like when I was that age). I'd even say that tons of women would find it exciting to be your first, think of it that way instead.

thanks for replying bros.
the pun shit really did make me lol. i suppose, i was very close to losing my virginity to a model...twice my age..ZING! that has to count as somthing im doing right, just not being able to follow it through. once she mentioned sex i was like: WOW what...? im the type of guy who wont stop until i acheive somthing, and will dedicate my whole life to prove someone wrong if i have to. and women are stretching my limits. there all so crazy. is it normal for be to be so desparate to lose the v card?

@LD haha you saw, i was so close to positioning myself so perfectly!
so i came in, dressed like a rockstar with a guitar on my back. sat down at a table by myself, i knew the 10 would be in any second, and she would join my table. i was prepared atleast for a kiss.
her sister walks in, and sits by me and says the 10 burnt her arm on a hair straightener and will be late.. quickly, 3 other guys join my table, 5 seconds later, the 10 walks in, and has to be on another table! i was so pissed!

we said nothing to each other the four hours the lesson lasted. it was odd, she never even said bye, she was all over me a couple days earlier. we flirted abit, and i got her to play thumb wars (i cheated). she seems intrested, she seems unintrested. i suppose thats another thread to be...im not so good at this stuff.

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Dan stop giving idiot advice... If you want to make your own post whinning and feeling sorry for yourself go ahead but don't create more losers by imposing your way of thinking on them...

Birdboy your fine, if you want to lose your virginity bad enough you will get out there and do what it takes to get it done.

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Hey mate,
yeah, i thought so, although i do feel bad for you. Its the 'all over you' behaviour, like you said, there wasnt really a reason for it to be so... exaggerated.
Oh well. I got a question for you.

Do you have balls? If so, walk up to her and say hey. Wait for her reply. If she really acts bad, say: what? you dont know me anymore? And last week you was all over me! If she says it was a lie and she pretended, then you know enough. tell her you hate fakes and walk away.
If she responds kinda positive, tell her you and her are going someplace. And see how she responds to that.

It is very likely that she will respond negative and you will feel like an ass at the moment. But from experience, i know that just a tiny bit later, you will feel like can beat the freaking world. go sarging with that attitude, and you will get laid . you dont really have much to lose, but it takes balls to do it.

cheers and good luck!

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"Stop being a fucking vagina and escalate" - CaptainJackHarkness

Like the naked leads the blind.
I know I'm selfish, I'm unkind.
Sucker love I always find,
Someone to bruise and leave behind.
placebo - every me, every you

I too am a virgin, and that's ok. Just learn from this site and consider it only a matter of time. Just don't rush it.

Why are you ashamed? After all, we were all born naturally as virgins, so don't be so quick to get rid of it. You may regret giving it to the most unlikable of creatures. *Shudders*

when you start to get up in age , it actually starts to look bad because a female will start to think something is wrong with you.. but you really don't have to let anyone know that.. You can have alot of girls around you and build your social image up, and than them finding out your a virgin can be interesting. Just tell em you havent met the right girl yet and you have more standards than sleeping with anything that has 2 legs. lol