ok guys i been out on a few dates with a girl, (HB9). we have abit of history, ie kissed a few times and slept together once. recently ive got back intouch with her, been going for food, shopping and cinema. im really into her, but getting crazy mixed signals from her.

the last couple of times we've been out, i haven't kissed her, but looks like im getting the correct body language off her showing at least (some) interest. on the date, she asked me to make her a mix tape, which i have. i sent her a msg to say that i was making one for her and that she will love it. i also asked her if it would be ok if itd span across 2 cds.

now heres the weird part- she replied with, "you a keen cunt arnt ye hahaha" she never been as blunt as that before so im confused on what way to take it, ive replied with, "take that back miss!! youl be lucky to get one cd"

now has anyone else been in this situation, where your stuck on what route to take with her.

im thinking its bitch defense thing, but also thinking its not worth the effort any more...is this too extreme??

any help or suggestions would be great guys

cheers.

You're getting crazy mixed signals because you're trying to analyze every signal that you get instead of the ones that matter.

You've had sex with her. I'm assuming you actually did and sleeping with her doesn't mean actually just sleeping. It's in the past but that's a good signal.

Concentrate on a few things, and use that to judge the interaction. She will either do them or not. No mixed signals.

Does she let you touch her?
Does she touch you back?
Do you ever kiss her?
Does she ever kiss you?

Try to judge the encounters on concrete results. You are admittedly not the greatest at reading body language, so stop trying to get so much information out of it. You're just going to mentally screw yourself, is she playing with her hair enough to want to kiss? Who fucking knows, don't think about it too much.

Try this kiss gambit. Tell her you have a secret, lean in really close to her ear, and whisper something like "nevermind, ill tell you later." If she doesn't try to move away, or even leans into you, then feel free to kiss her.

Now comes another source of problems. Why are giving her any gifts at all, especially at her request? Women don't fall for gifts. Asking for her approval on it is even worse. The only thing it does is let her know she can push your boundaries. "You a keen" was her saying "Why the hell are you so keen to give me shit? I don't deserve it." and "cunt arnt ye hahaha" was her seeing how much further she could push the boundaries.

You did good to reprimand her in a playful way though. You didn't fold completely. I wouldn't even give her the mix-tape now. If she brings it up, just say you totally forgot, tell her to buy you two some ice cream. If she complies, say you'll remember to put the cd into the burner when you get home. Then still don't do it. Get her invested in seeking your approval, not the other way around.

Watch out that you don't jump through any hoops she sets you without first making her jump through one of yours. The mix cd request sounds like one to me and it seems that she wants to test how well you comply.

Next time make sure you get something out of it first, tease her and be a challenge.

-Blackjack

I'm sorry but making a mix tape for a girl has to go down as....one of the biggest chode moves of all time. If a girl is lucky I'll throw a link up on her facebook of a band she should check out.

And you went the extra mile by asking her if it's okay to go the extra mile, when you're already going out of your way for her...for no reason.

A past hookup doesn't mean anything NOW.

If you're trying to rehash your left overs, you failed to put new food on the table. Stop chasing yesterdays meal and go feed yourself.

GFTOW

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yea guys thanks for the feed back really appreciate it, i think i have got mentally fucked by this one, *slaps head*
yea i definitely need to get her working for me and not the other way around, (which i now see it was)
i would like to get to know text game a bit more so i can play with her and keep her hooked without thinking im gona loose her , has anyone got links to shit like that??

she has sent me another msg, saying "gimme them cds bro" another hoop!?! this was after i didnt text her for a few days, need to change this around quick or i think she'll get pretty bored of me :s

again thanks guys.
M

You already dug yourself a hole with the mixtape incident. It doesn't mean she isn't going to be attracted to you, but you've sacrificed your manhood lol.

You don't need text game. Just call her. Make plans and escalate when you're with her. You can't fuck her through your phone.

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mix tape lol

just write "nah im just keen for cunt

and maybe write if you wanna hail mary

nah im just keen for cunt and yours will do

hahaha mix tape

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say you made the mix tape but its a soundtrack to the porn video your making together!!

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This girl sounds like she's trying to play the dominant one here. Bust her balls by telling her you aren't doing anything until she turns down that demanding attitude of hers a notch. Maybe if she was polite, then you would be more willing to give it to her.

Sometimes women try that shit with me and I just say, "Excuse me Ms. Demanding, but maybe if you ask me politely, I'll consider it." They'll usually apologize and then do as I say.

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