hello everyone, iv come to notice a problem im having.

if i go out sober i cant bring mself to find the confidence to talk to women.
but if im drunk i will talk and introduce myself to anyone aslong as i got alcohol in me im a pritty layed back cool, but if i go out sober i get nervous and shake im to scared to talk to the people, expecially infront of the people who used to pick on me in high school and i can never think of anything to say and feel excluded talking with them.
how can i become more social and less nervous around people sober?

and whats a good way to aproch chicks while dancing, the musics to lowed to talk to then without leaning in there ear so introducing urself is hard how do u get them to dance ith u?

I'm a junior and this is exactly how I am. If I'm drunk I'm the life of the part starting drinking games and talking to any lady that I fancy. But when I'm sober I'm pretty fucking awkward around girls so I feel ya and want answers too!

Boyz boyz boyz.

This is not an unusual problem in fact it's so common there's an entire industry built on solving it. That's why bar owners provide a bar and a dance floor. They pack people together, serve liquid courage and provide an environment conducive to sexual encounters. The problem with this is that everyone does it. Every guy is out there pounding back beers to work up the courage to talk to women. I seen a guy on keys once pounding beers in the shower! lol To become a PUA you have to be the exception to the rule.

The simple answer is that there is no answer. AA is something we all suffer from and you'll never completely get over it. The way I got over it was to escalate. I started out just approaching girls saying "hi you're cute can I get your number?" or "Hey wanna dance?" I always got rejected but that's the point. If you just try to get rejected then it doesn't hurt and you're emotions respond. I've been a PUA for over a year and I still run warm up sets there's no avoiding it. So when you go out STAY SOBER! Getting drunk makes you're approaches effective but then when it's time to actually get romantic you're fucked.

The Dance floor is a big tool I think too for over coming AA. When I go out I usually go straight for the speakers and dance around like an idiot. Instantly I'm the center of attention and my brain goes "well if I was trying to look cool I just blew it! Guess I can relax and have fun!" oddly enough that's the attitude you want.

As for gaming girls on the dance floor there's really only one effective technique. I've read lots and in my experience the dance floor is (like Mystery says) a trap. The way you can work it is if you bring buddies and have a planned dance. Me and some friends of mine used to go out all wearing purple and we'd line up to perform a planned dance. Instantly you and your friends are the highest valued males in the room and girls start opening you. You've now demonstrated alignment and social proof, confidence and a willingness to have fun. I actually just about scored with a Budweiser girl the first night we used this...... oh Budweiser girl I still miss you...... SORRY I'm back!

So when you go out start out maybe in another bar and run crash and burn game. Intentionally get rejected atleast 2 or 3 times. Then go to your desired bar and start rocking out on the dance floor. Don't grind any girls in fact push them away! If you have buddies rock out a planned dance and then head to the smoke pit or anywhere away from the music. By this point you'll be well in state and ready to sarge your ass off. Hope this helps boyz!

Sarge On

-Whiskey

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thank you very much, im goingout this weekend and ill do as yo say and aim to get rejected for a while to get over the nervs should be fun itll be my first time out to a actual club in newy instead of pub/club

Let Me know how it turns out! I'm always excited to help guys out with this stuff I love hearing that I got a friend laid it's a good feeling. I've gotten a few buddies laid now and it's almost as if it were me getting the girl. Post your stories on here that way I'll get it for sure: http://puame.ca/phpBB3/index.php

On the dancefloor, I don't pay too much attention to the leaning in bit.

I tend to wind girls up about their "boring" dancing. Most girls in a club will be dancing, but not doing anything too extreme, as they don't want to look stupid in front of their friends/potential blokes they could be hooking up with.

So I'll go up and, in a friendly jokey way (make sure you don't just do it deadpan or she'll think you're a weirdo) say she's got some really bad dance moves. Last night I was at a student night and I did this, then told the girl to show me her best dance move. Now, I can't dance, so I don't try to beat it. I just sort of copy it but so that she knows I'm teasing her about how bad it is. Then because you're already talking about cheesey rubbish dance moves, you can just do cheesey rubbish dance moves yourself.

Frame it something like "ooh dear, that move you just showed me is terrible. You might as well be doing this (you do another really bad cheesey dance move)."

The girl laughs, you can do a move where you have to touch her arm or something to escalate if you're not comfortable getting too close too soon with dancing. It also becomes a bit of a competition and she is trying to impress you. That's always a good place to have them!

Let go of the outcome and start having fun socializing with women.