I've known this girl for almost a year now and we've always been good friends. Since I met her, I knew that she liked me but had a BF so I pretty much ruled her out.

However, a few months ago, we were hanging out at the mall and she said that she wanted to break up with her bf but wasn't sure whether to do it or not. I don't want to straight up tell her to break up with him so I just told her to choose the decision that would make her happier.

She's been struggling with this decision for over 3 months now and I think I really fell for this girl. I want to pursue a relationship with her, but I obviously can't do that when she's still dating the other guy..

This other guy is nice, caring and is a good guy but I just feel that I can give her more. He is not around much and spends most of his time studying. He is not social and outgoing but is more the shy, quiet type. It makes him so much harder to dislike.

Then yesterday, during her birthday party, she dragged me to the side and asked me if I liked her with her bf about 10 feet behind her. I was completely caught off guard and told her yes, then she replied that she was sorry and that because she has a bf that she can't be with me. It was absolutely brutal not only because she chose him over me but because she led me along.

Honestly guys, should I just push away my feelings and move on or should I try to try to win her back again?

Your advice is much appreciated!

I would move on if it were me. As David D said, next! there's 30 girls behind you potentially more interested and a better fit for me.

Move on man. She gave you an answer, and that answer was no. It was a rough way to hear it but at least you have closure. Go find someone who cares about you.

If this was the most 'brutal' night of your life, your must be living a pretty good life.
What do you think you've been doing for a year?
Move on from what? Doing nothing?
In order to win something back . . . shouldn't you actually have HAD it in the first place?

Hey, I'm being a bit of an asshole but you seem to be lost in some melodramatic hysterics. You invested NOTHING into a relationship. What are you whining about? For a year, you lived inside your head. You imagined scenarios. You hoped that somehow, by the virtues of you being a good person and her being an understanding girl, something would magically happen. Nothing in life works that way. For this entire year, you could have met lots of girls, befriended them, have gone on dates, enjoyed intimacy, or even found a special girlfriend. Through your words, it seems you have somehow justified this year of NOTHING as something worthwhile.

Unless you can accept to yourself that ^this is the most unproductive thing a man can do for his love/sex life, you're destined to repeat similar scenarios over and over again. Luckily for you, you're in the right forum.

We get into all sorts of topics here but the name of the forum is "Pick Up Artist Forum". . . and these days, they even put "#1" in front of the title so now you know we mean business. Read up a little, figure out a basic strategy, consider creating a journal, and let's get working on a much better year than your last.

Thanks guys, for everything, this has really cleared up my mind.
I will be starting a journal soon and I hope you will continue to support and critique me on my way to becoming a PUA.

Haha .. She just wanted a Closure. Whether she can be with you or not is secondary for her but she wanted to know if you liked her - thts a win for her !

Keep this in mind for the future - Women would do this in the same way that most guys would try to get as many numbers as possible just for an ego boost even if they dont intend on calling back(pretty stupid)

this of looks like a shit test to me, she could just be seeing if your going to be a man and step up to her.

In any case moving on is always good, i would do both'
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man up to her, and move on.

Thanks guys, that really opened up my eyes, I wasn't sure girls my age (16) actually did that shit.

for those who said move on. do you guys still keep in touch with said girl? or completely ignore her? or just as a hi and bye friends?

Story of my life, man.

Anyway, I know the burn, but it's mostly made worse because we allowed the girls to dominate our head for so long without any concrete reason for it. What works for me: get wasted on rootbeer (I'm not into drinking) and thin-crust pizza while venting your anger on a sports game in which your team is losing. It does wonders for your frustration. You should feel moderately better in a day or two, at least enough for you to pull yourself up by your bootstraps, put on some killer clothes and a dash of cologne, and start the hunt for someone who will value you. And this time lay it on the line and speak up loudly and clearly if you are interested.
Best advice for now!

Allot of girls have this problem because most girls are terrified of being alone.

If I were you, she now knows that you like her but move on dude and play the field. If she sees you with other girls and she 'generally' likes you, you can play it up on what she's missing out on. She will become really jealous.

GoodLuck

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I would have slapped her across the face and left.

That was bad man. I'd move on, without thinking twice. Do not waste more time. And definitely start a journal.

Bang on.

Thanks for the wake up call.

Also, starting my journal eternitys-journal-becoming-a-pua-vt1263 ... highlight=

LusciousFox, Slip n Slide: thanks for the advice guys

kasabi: thanks for waking me up man. i needed that blunt message you sent me. hope you continue to critique my game, thanks

Marc, detox75: thanks for info on closures and shit tests

oracewx: i'm still in touch with the girl, she's in 1 of my classes and I see her everyday at lunch

Artiste: thanks bro, i tried this out and i helped a shit ton, this is officially my new technique for feeling better, hopefully, i won't have to use it too often

Lamont: i'll make her jealous as hell

TonyKing: hahaha, thanks for the line man, i'll keep it in mind

papichulo818: hahaha, while i definitely would not do that, this comment has cheered me up a shit ton, thanks man

LocoPuaBr: hope you critique me in my journal

7000: not sure what that means, but thanks for the support man