Why do you think it goes to waste? I thought you guys gave me some good tips on how to turn this around?....

Kasabi wasn't advocating that. Read his post again.

There is a lot of emotional pain tangled up in this relationship, it will never be healthy and happy. What you really want is to prove something, that you can get her to have sex with you, that you are good enough to have sex with her.

Do you really need to chase her to get sex to soothe your throbbing ego? Why not spend your time more productively, working on yourself, and finding other women who may love you back?

On the one hand, I am a fan of the open mind. . . "anything can happen" - as they say.

Unfortunately, by the virtues of the characters involved and dynamics of their interaction history, a fuck will lead to a chuck. There is no escaping this. The only variables are 'who will chuck whom" and what will he/she pull out of his/her ass to justify it Well, even that's quite predictable:

She: "This was a mistake and I don't want to ruin our friendship" - Then she'll call back once a month for 2 months and then call it quits until she finds another guy to repeat the process. Fun! Fun! Fun!

He: "I had to let her go because she wasn't happy . . .but . . . I left her better than ________" - Good man.

I wonder how many of ^these the typical guy has to roll before the redundancy becomes boring? Nodding your fake nods over her fake cries and fake chats over pain, friendships, loyalties, past histories . . .

Wouldn't it be more exciting to watch a day time soap opera?

So I ask her to have a friend with her and ask her if she will sleep with me in the bed but I’ll stick to my side of the bed and she agreed but said I better stick to my side of the bed. So we go to my bed and she turns her back to me and goes to sleep fully clothed.