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So I'm in my last year of school, and the 18 birthday parties will be coming up soon, have the problem of opening and building attraction. Sometimes it comes naturally but most of the time it doesn't. Need some pointers in some openers and techniques to meet more girls.
Oh yes! Way to throw me an underhand pitch. All about this one, I'm a senior in high school.
The key is to open immediately. Everyone. From the moment you walk in the door, as soon as you see someone you don't know, you introduce yourself. No hesitation at all. Each time you come upon a new person, immediately introduce yourself. It's expected at a house party, people WANT to meet each other. You probably won't remember most of their names later, but they'll remember yours.
The names you WILL remember are the names of the important people. They're cool, interesting, multi-faceted people, with a lot going on in their lives. If you aren't one of these types of people (I am, but through conscious effort) you'll have to fake it a little, but these are your new friends. The other people at the party matter, if in a conversation with any of them, really try to learn about them. But these important people are the ones you laugh and joke with, present yourself as one of their breed and they will accept you.
As far as girls, specifically. You can't hide your attraction. You're really going to want to, but you can't if you want to be successful. When you want her to follow you to the kitchen, you need to take her arm and say, while looking into her eyes, "Hey, let's go to the kitchen." NOT "Hey guys, let's go downstairs" or "Hey I'm going to the kitchen..."
That physical contact paired with eye contact does says "I want to spend time with you tonight" and that simple assertion is big. You can be more sexual soon, but don't try to pull off any big sexual moves in front of groups. Isolate, then close. Without those two steps, you're going to have a boring night.