I'm new to the forums. It's safe to say I'm an AFC. I'm here mostly for self-improvement and psychological benefits.

Gotta be honest here: I've got remnants of a christian upbringing that make me feel that random hookups are immoral. Do you have any advice on ways to start weeding that thinking out of my head? I seem to be naturally attractive to girls (5-7s). Sometimes I pick up on it, sometimes friends have to tell me. Either way, one of the biggest things holding me back from getting girls is my belief that sex outside of a committed relationship is wrong. I think that if I hook up with a girl, I owe her a relationship, even though I don't really think it is the case.... Some psych could have a field day with me.

Thanks for the help, and I look forward to learning.

i too came from a very christian background. look there are a lot of fears and frustrations we all have to face.

time to nut up and act in spite of your fear.

the best way to overcome fear is by doing the thing you fear. guess what, you are going to make mistakes. you are going to mess up. at the end of the day, if that is the worse thing that can happen then you are good. life is an adventure. have fun.

Hey there, it seems to me that the issues you are describing is what is known as a "limiting belief." This can be solved by using some reframing and NLP (neuro linguistic programming). Simply put, you have to view the situation from different angles and perspectives.

like for example, ask your self:
can you define "random" hookups. What does "random" even mean in this case?
what is immorality and who get to decide this?
can you think of a specific situation where "random hookups" are not immoral.
What is your goal for pursuing PUA? to have "random" hookups or create meaningful pairbonding?
where do you think you'll end up 10 years from now if you keep thinking the way you are thinking?

Just be honest with yourself. Don't go around messing with girls you aren't even attracted to. You've came here to get the high quality attractive girls. duh!

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Hey, thanks for the comments, jctennis and X. Good call with NLP too. I've had a book on this for over a year that I started reading recently, so good timing.

I am definitely here to learn to cultivate more meaningful relationships with women, whether it be friends with benefits or a long-term relationship. I gotta start with me, for sure.

Yes, I'd like to hook up with far more girls than I have at this point, but quality has always been more important to me than quantity. But quality AND quantity is a great combo.