So, to give you some backstory,

she goes to my school, we've talked, and kino'd afew times (up to tight hugging)
she's constantly sourrounded by guys, constantly validating ect ect.

Wednesday, she walked into my classroom and was so happy to see me... "Oh ____ you alright!!"

sure enough, we looked at each other afew times during that lesson, winking, smiling.

i walk outside expecting her to be long gone, and she's there. she grabs hold of me and says "Oh____ happy new year how are you!". i was completly dumbstruck. for a girl this attractive...and to be chasing me.

when there was a silence for a couple seconds, i noticed another one of my lady friends (Mia) talking to a girl i never knew. i turned around and introduced myself. Hi! Im_____ *seductive voice* i'm sure Mia has told you all about me". Mia, burst into laughter and the girl i never knew began to chuckle. sure enough, the 10 grabbed my arm and whined my name.

This shit is crazy. the attraction has almost exploded over night. and i dont know why, but im not complaining.

before, i negged her, and i was the cool kid in class who didn't give a shit about what people think. ( i wear leather, dress like a rockstar )


a couple days before we broke up for christmas, we had a deep discussion about life, and how she broke up with her boyfriend she'd been with for 4 years. Id also been suffering with a break up.

Im seeing her again on friday. How do i act round her...do i give her attraction back? This is by far, the best looking girl i know. i mean, she 3 years older than me too. LOL.


Specific questions:

If she's infront of me, can i stretch my arms for a massive bear hug...then back it up with.. "are you touching my ass?!"

We finish school early on friday. How do i ask her to go out for some lunch?

I tend to let other people influence my confidence depending whos there. Why is this?

And most importantly, how on earth do i reply to an IoI. i have no idea!

thank you all,


birdboy

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hey dude!

First off, i do warn you. Girls that are suddenly all over you... i have my doubts. Just keep it in mind, so you dont fall too hard from the breathtaking heights .

Ok, now lets get down to business.

You ask : how do i act around her? Well, i wouldnt really act if i was you. I would just be myself. Dont become dependent on her. Give her the space she needs. Dont try to play it cool, like you seem to not give a shit.

What do you mean by: do i give her attraction back? like in, acknowledge you are attracted to her? If so, yeah ofcourse. If you play it all cool and uninterested, she will lose interest, which is natural.

the "are you touching my ass"... i dont know mate... it seems pretty close to that F & C crap. i dont like it.

How do you ask her for lunch?.... say: hey, i want to have lunch with you. Lets go. Or, hey, i want to have lunch with you on Friday. I ll pick you up at 12, or whatever. State what you want. You are the leader. Dont ask: would you like to go lunch with me? Would you like a sandwich or a burger? Shall i dress you salad with extra ass-licking? You are a man. Lead. State what you want. She can chose to follow you or to do her own thing.

You tend to let people influence your confidence? Why? Hell, how should we know? Why would you care what other people think? You tell us mate .

How do you mean: replying to an IoI? Give one back ofcourse. How? geesh mate. Give me an example of an IOI you want to reply to? Or perhaps, more in general, how do you show interest in somebody? Talk to her, take her somewhere, touch her, kiss her. Take an interest, without going too far. This is the hardest part: at the correct time, be able to let go, to give space.

hope i helped,

cheers and good luck

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Yea, girls that are suddenly over you almost always have more reasons than "i like you". Be careful.

I don't know if you should give her the knowledge your interested, usually that's what these girls are fishing for and when you give it to em they just string you along. Like he said though don't act UNinterested; if you keep pushing a girl away she'll stay away one of the times.

and yea, don't do the touching my ass thing

(also don't stop at the hug, that's what friends do, not boyfriends/girlfriends)

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Thank you both for replying.
Im trying to get this all in for tommorow. Im asking her to a dance at my sisters engagement party. Please reply if your reading this!

Dont get me wrong, there was iois way before this. She lightly rubbed her legg on mine when we sat together a couple weeks ago, she always looked at me and then looked down when our eyes met.

she'd say hello to me, and ignore everyone else.

alright, i'll be careful. Ive never talked to a girl as attractive as this, and i have no intention to fuck it up. I just dont know how to give attraction without ruining the chase.

i want to be around her, i want to hug her when i want to, but i cant, because i'll be like the other 40 AFC guy friends she has.

she flaked out on me a couple weeks ago, when i ASKED her to come lunch, she said she'll think about it and we where quickly interupted by the teacher.

i suppose what it comes down to, is should i also be all over this girl now she is all over me?

thanks

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