OK, the girl I have been dating for about 6 weeks.


We were out on saturday as it was her birthday friday night; a big group of like 20 of us male and female.


I met a few of her lady friends I didnt know, one of them introduced herself when she wasnt with me 'Hi I am ****, you must be *****'s fancy man?'


Me: Ha something like that, pleased to meet you.


A 2nd lady friend: 'oh so youre ***** the love of her life! ha'



I didnt probe on this just repeated a greeting of sorts, but that sounds promising...we all like affection IOIs after all


The evening went well, we went back to my place and had some great sex.


Fast forward to Sunday....she stayed all day wanting to watch films and stuff...more sex.


It got to sunday evening and we somehow got on topic of her birthday presents....

Seeing as we're only just recently official...I decided not to get her a present...call that stupid/good game or whatever, it seemed the right choice.


She called me on it; well, she went really quiet for about 10 mins and then brought it up.... she said she 'didnt want to sound like a spoilt bitch....i wasnt even bothered if you got me something that cost hardly anything, I just sort of expected you would get me a present as it was my birthday....I would have got you something not because I thought I would have to, just I would have liked to get you something you would enjoy'


Next may have been a poor move on my part. Although I didnt get into a fight over this, kept my composure etc...I just levelled with her: 'Hey I did want to get you something, its just things havent been completely serious so on my part I didnt want to freak you out by buying you gifts etc'.


She replied 'Well isnt it obvious were serious now?.... I'm sorry I sound like a total bitch over this it really would have just been nice I wasnt expecting anything pricey'....

Me: Yeah I know, in hindsight I probably should have got something, but hey I said I'd get us a meal somewhere next week'


Her: Yeah you did, again sorry about that I didnt mean to sound bitchy



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Prior to this little tiff she said she was gonna shoot home soon....after this she stayed 4 more hours and another spate of sex





So....was I wrong to sort of show my cards with the 'didnt wanna freak you out' line? It was just my instinct not to go committing loads of money on her. In the past I have fucked up and paid for EVERYTHING from the beginning. With this girl its completely 50-50...you get a round I get a round.



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Fast forward to Monday morning


She is off work, Im studying, she texts me saying 'Hey I know you're busy with work and stuff but be free at 6.30pm I have a surprise for you x'


We ended up going to see a sci-fi film (she knows Im super into them) and for some food.


Was this some sort of approval seeking because of the small argument?



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Finally my last point re: serious relationship


She has told her folks about me, they sound happy and wanna meet me. The one thing that isnt official is on Facebook. I know, that might mean nothing to some people....but I've always thought it was marking your ground so to speak.

Besides everyone knows we're dating/going out now anyway.


I texted her last night saying: Hey I just realised we aint changed our facebook status yet x



Her reply : haha aww you want to change your facebook to in a relationship with me do you? Im not doing that Im afraid, in my experience the only thing it ever does is draw attention to the fact if people split up, Hey Im dead positive and stuff I know!! x



I'll be honest this has pissed me off a little.... and even though shes into me it sounds like I quickly need to establish some control back? She initiated the flirting with me, I gamed her well and escalated well. My instincts tell me I need a pep talk here if anyone can give me pointers.




Nevertheless, I replied : ha i wasnt fussed either way I just didnt know if you were. thats practical. I hate the comments etc people leave on those status changes x


Sorry for the long post....thanks

TOO FUCKING LONG!
Make it short and I'd help you out

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I've PM'd you regarding the last issue bro.


But for this thread - tl;dr:


(1)Was I wrong to not buy a gift for a really new gf's birthday... I thought it good game not to and just get us a meal the following week. I didnt wanna appear freaky.



(2) She apologised for making it an issue...said she didnt wanna be bitchy...and then 'surprised' me monday with a trip to the cinema to see my favourite kind of film + food.


(3) Is a facebook relationship status THAT big a deal... she says she doesnt wanna change it in case of it being public knowledge if we break up...this despite all her affection for me pisses me off...everybody knows about us anyway.

(1) Of course you were wrong. You don't use game when you are in a relationship, Ok? If you really care about her you don't

(2) My point

(3) IT IS NOT, sent you a PM

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I definitely under stand your whole issue with the facebook thing.. Hell, its like now a days a relationship isn't official unless you profess it to everyone in the world(facebook) lol ... Thats how i used to feel, and then I realized that me wanting shit to be on facebook was coming from a needy place on my part.. I wanted all the guys to know ' this is my girl, back off'... Once i got to the point where I didn't care the chick was sending me relationship request.. Sounds like she's flipped the power upside down on you. Next time she comes over, say you don't feel like having sex and don't touch her the entire time. That'll fix her up


Ironic how you didnt get her a gift but you want it official on facebook lol ... And next time, a small gift would have did the job. something under $25.

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Good points gentlemen.


The last time I had a gripe? She said she was still 'hurting' from an ex some 5 weeks ago so didnt wanna rush into anything.


I never asked again and just showed her a good time/finally fucked her a few times.


Before I know it we're official.

I suppose facebook means nothing, and she probably has a point (there is nothing worse than when nosey people like/comment on a broken relationship page on facebook).


She is really into me and organises things for us to do quite a lot. I'm gonna take a bit more control of organising and keep showing her a good time. Feelings seem strong so this facebook thing will either change or she'll get more attracted/comfortable with me and it still be an issue. Either way I guess I succeed?