On Saturday, I went to Birmingham with a friend of mine. I already had a couple of glasses of wine before 5 pm. Then I went to slug and had another beer. So my mood was cheerful. I met JACKAL and VOLCANO near New Street earlier. Later I joined them and SUBZERO in Arcadian where they were engaging a three set of babes.

1)JACKAL asked me to open a 5 set at the SPAM. I asked them if my beard looks sexy. SUBZERO tried to wing me. They were not very interested and we moved on.

2) Another two set nearby were quite friendly as they were SPAM promo tickets to some club which we didnt realize. VOLCANO opened this with my beard opener.

3)Then VOLCANO opened another three set near some bar who were smoking with the beard opinion opener. The HB8 said she didnt care but the HB7 said she liked it. Then VOLCANO asked them their opinion about pubic hair which they seemed to take it in a friendly way but I found it totally hilarious.

4)Later I tried to open a two-set near the crossing. They could sense that I was after them and they started walking away swiftly. Couldn't stop them although I tried to block their way.

5)Then we went to Brindley place. On the way I winged JACKAL with a two set of HB7's outside paradise forum. One of them liked clean shaven and one of them liked proper bushy beards which was an IOI.

6)Near the entrance to Brindley place, I opened a two set of MILF's. They were very friendly and one of them liked my beard. Then JACKAL and SUBZERO winged me for a minute and we went towards slug.

7)In front of the Slug I tried to open a two set. The black HB8 was a real bitch to me and said "GET OUT OF MY WAY!". I just didn't give a shit as I was a bit drunk anyway.

8)Then we entered Slug and Lettuce, the Mecca of Birmingham's pickup artists. SUBZERO pushed me to open a 2 set of MILFs. I opened a 2 set of men with beard opener because they were blocking the two set of MILFs and I wanted to make sure they didnt know them(I still remember the hostile incident from two weeks ago when I opened a MILF and her husband came in with a drink). They said I should ask a female for that kind of opinion. So I moved on to the MILF set and they were so fucking friendly, I could go through my routine to the third step of handshakes but I ejected immediately because I was not really feeling like pursuing it any further. I need to carry on with compliance ladders after this stage as they were quite interested in talking to me.

9)Then I winged VOLCANO who opened a two set HB7 blonde and HB6 fatty. The blonde one said that I looked old with my beard and she would kiss VOLCANO if she had to kiss one of us. The fatty sitting next to her had the most evil hateful look at me I could ever imagine.


LESSONS learnt : 1) Do the compliance ladder

2) Women love to give fashion advice. Use it as an opener. (like beard opener)

Started of the day very negatively. The entire train ride up to Birmingham I couldn't do anything but worry, feel anxious about things, feel dread about my life and how boring everything was.

As soon as I got to brum I decided to buy a beer from a news agents to kill the anxiety I was feeling. Bought the beer and downed it before meeting with a girl I had already met a while back (to pass time). I didn't like her but I tolerated her company for a few hours before meeting with the Jackal.

So I met up with the Jackal (Who was 45 minutes late due to a misunderstanding so I bought a beer whilst waiting ). He was in high spirits as usual.

He went up to a group of males walking up the street asking their names and shaking their hands. He explained to me why he did it and that he was going to try get 100 hand shakes by the end of the night.
So I mentioned me also doing it and he said he wouldn't mind me doing it as well.

So we walked up towards the centre of shaking peoples hands and asking their names. Its actually amazing how many people stop and throw out their hand to shake yours. I needn't have given any excuse for doing it about half of the time. Some people WANT to make friends and secretly want random people to go up to them and make friends, OR, meeting people and shaking hands is so ingrained in out unconscious that most of us just feel compelled to comply?

Anyway, this was a definite state booster – well... I was certainly in a better state than I was when I fist got there. I was so focused on getting more and more “hand shakes” that I kind of forgot about the getting numbers and bitches thing. I stopped one group – mixed set, about 4 girls, possibly 6's and one guy, the girls kept talking to me as I was gesturing to leave and had to stay for a minute or to making small talk with them. There was a another single set I approached simply for a handshake, and Jackal was there and noticed how close she stopped near me when I stopped her and as she walked away he told me not to forget why I was here and to go ask for her number. I didn't.

I got to about 50 or so handshakes by this time and Jackal was on a bout 60 or 70, although he was actually making conversation with them. Next time I need to do this too.

We went to a pub near-ish the bull ring (still don't know its name) and sat next to some lesbian looking girl and and blonde shy guy. Conversation seemed forced and I wasn't interested in being being there. We went inside and Jackal opened a two set and I followed and sat on the chair opposite a 6 and shook her and we exchanged names. Turns out they were together and lesbian. Jackal continues friendly conversation for a while and then we left to go outside.

We met up with Subzero (hopefully I get your name right this time! If not, I'll call you your real name from now on) . He was in happy spirits but not too over the top, content with himself and confident. He was also in some peackocky attire. Which is interesting to see in field.

Me and Subzero went to a pub and he opened a two set of 5-6's and they were very responsive. I however never said very much. I think I need to practice conversation more with people even if I feel there is no point. Actually, I need to try to get in state, feel happy, feel impulsive when I'm sober.

Shortly after this we met up with Don Juan. He didn't LOOK like a PUA. His approach wasn't confident and seemed uncomfortable his his own skin. Which is how I am a lot of the time. I read Some of your stuff and I understand where you're coming from about growing your beard as I'm on a mission to grow my hair even though I KNOW more girls like shorter hair than long and when it's long they don't like it messy, which mine is. So I'm basically seeing what happens with my hair the longer it gets!

To quote what you said before:

“I didn't hate myself. But I didn't have the confidence to approach anyone as I assumed that people are going to be repelled by my looks and this is not going to lead anywhere. From my best guess, I think people may think I am some religious fundmentalist.” - if that's what you think, then change it, it's that's simple.
I think these kinds of changes are easier to make than personality changes.

I look forward to sarging with you in the future.

We started walking towards the centre and I saw Subzero opening a 7 and she seemed in a hurry and she just walked off, and I just decided to take the opportunity to attempt to stop her. I held out both my arms and was like “WOAH WOAH! Stop for second! Where are you off to? Are you in a hurry?” and she was like “im going to work and yes im in a hurry”. So I said “well if youre in a hurry just gimme your number and I'll call you” and she was like “okay” and I took her number. That was the first number of only two I would get that night.

I think I have a long way to go till I get to the place I was 6 months ago. I feel almost like ive started all over again.

We did some sarge in slug and lettuce, a place I've never liked. I didn't open anyone except when I was asked to open a set for Don Juan. We left the place, Jackal left, and me and Subzero went to spoons for a drink and had a convo for ten mins before he left.

So I was alone in brum from this moment on. I got quite drunk through out the night and met a lot of cool people. It was like I wasn't alone in the first place. As soon as I got to snobs I met two guys and just hung with their group from that point forward. They were super friendly and one guy kept buying me drinks and at the end of the night they all offered to back to a house and smoke weed, which was nice of them but I declined.

I like how alcohol makes things so much easier when it comes to approaching but a problem I have when drunk is that I never care to pull the trigger, never care about an end result, all I care about is how I feel in the moment, so asking for number or kiss closing isn't really on my mind. I came close to kiss closing/number closing or any closing to one girl but I didn't seem to care whether I did or not. I remember a time I kept feeling up her ass and putting my hands inside her pants(she didn't object) while talking to her friend. Then later on that night at a different club we met again and the same thing happened but I kept making conversation with her friend which might have prevented things from going any where. Point is though, is that I didn't care whether anything did happen because I was drunk.

The only reason why I got this second number was because when the club was closing I realised I didn't even attempt to number close or any close, and happened to be next to a girl and handed her my phone and without hesitation she put her number in my phone.

This reminds me of a seminar I watched online by adam lyons where he described a time he attempted to sarge while drunk and he said he couldnt remember most things and had no success but his friend had told him his “game” was the best he'd ever seen. As he had no success he didn't try drunk sarging again.

I think that the effects of alcohol can be good sometimes. I JUST NEED TO HARNESS THE POWER OF WILL. Mwahahaha.

If any of you guys are interested in day game from about 2pm onwards on saturday, send me a text.







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DON JUAN J012 this is the reason I thought you were a teenager I never knew you were 31.
Do not ask 15 year olds on dates it may cause many legal problems.

Volcano u did very well. Pretty much u answered your own. Questions.

I now will be talking to random people everyday. Until I enjoy doing this. What I mean is I still have fun, but do get nervous. The aim next time will be to exchange numbers with guy sets, make friends. I have done this before but not with an objective in mind.

I aim to have a lower goal now 20 sets daygame and bargame each. I want stay in set as long as possible.

Lone sarging is my goal. I have done this before, but not for long periods. There really is no other solution than sarging everyday. Boredom is a pain barrier.

No one punched me. This was a relief.

I was scared to approach large group of guys making noise. Any tips?.

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So after my first session with the jackel crew, I went on a date with a girl I number closed.
We first met up and she had to quickly go to the bank so I just stood back and waited. From this we walked towards the bullring and I was stated we should go for a coffee or just a drink and a sit down to chat to get to know each other. She suggested cinema which we did walk to but I said no when we were there because you can't really talk etc.
I stated we should go to weatherspoons which we went to and had a drink.

WE WAS AT THE BAR AND THE BARMAN SERVED ME AND I JUST ORDERED A DIET COKE AND WHEN HE SAID ANYTHING ELSE I JUST SAID NO WHICH HE DID SEEM A LITTLE SUPRISED BY, but the girl did just put her bag up and grabbed her purse. I DONT THINK ITS RIGHT FOR ME TO BUY THE GIRL A DRINK, what do you guys think on this?

From this we sat down and chatted for roughly an hour and a half (mainly about her), and there was only 1 quick sudden awkward pause which she very quickly started the convo up straight away. I said I would have to get off cause I had work to do, and she straight away said I would like to meet up again, which I said sure, sounds good to me, I gave her a hug outside and we went our seperate ways.

The only thing I think I could of possibly done was introduce some kino which I didn't do and possibly scares me a little that I may be falling into the lets just be friend, but I think if I introduce some kino it won't be a problem.

Overall we had a good chat and a little bit of a giggle, and we have text since saying that we both had a good time and that we should meet up.

Feel free to leave some pointers for improvements.

U can do anything u want as long as u r comfortable with it. The girl must not think u r stingy, but u have an aura of wealth about u.

Others may give a different take on things. Which should be helpful too.

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Hey man good job, but i would buy them a drink in this situation, its not supplication, just social convention. I don't advise just buying her drinks all night, or something to that effect though, you could say 'i'll get the first round, you get the next'. The rule of 'don't buy drinks for girls' is just to stop newbies attempting to buy a girls attention, when you are further into the interaction (you have been with her for 20mins+, or a day 2) and you go to buy a drink for yourself, get her one too.

And a tip on kino, choose to sit somewhere where kino is possible, if you are sitting opposite her on a table it would be hard get much kino going, but if you were sitting beside her on a sofa, kino would be much easier and more natural. Anyway she wants to see you again so you must have impressed her!

Hi Guys, re- Kino troubles … I think the advice being handed out between you all is excellent in terms of practicalities, but may still come off as weird, or ‘not the right time’ etc, if it isn’t underpinned by the fundamentals, so maybe consider the following questions:

Are you creating attraction by A) engaging her sexuality in an open/honest way, painting yourself as being in a special realm, more aware of her needs etc? is she getting turned on because you are cutting through the socialized bullshit and treating her in a dominant way? Or B) generating attraction by engaging her sexuality under the raydar, while DHV-ing/ qualifying etc (attraction switches, traditional GAME…)

If it is A,) then fuck it, be brazen, tell her you are going to touch her and that she WILL like it, lead, lead, lead. Cross the line, make her wet, then lick her wetness of your fingers in front of her, make her do it too (this ALWAYS works, especially if it is not in a club, where it is more expected, café’s, pubs, etc, are best for this). Redifine what reality is. This will take STRONG, non-routine inner game, but this can be established methodically in the same way as anything else.

If it is B) Then micro-calibrate, talk to her conscious mind, but engage her sexuality on an unconscious level, kino immediately, and do not link your kino escalation IN ANY WAY to what you are saying. In fact (and this is VITAL, it will cut months and months off your learning curves trust me) the more dissonance The better. I cannot stress this enough – talk about mundane, everyday things and escalate physically at the same time, then when the talk gets personal, deep, or humorous, ease off on the Kino. Don’t let her link your words and with actions, this creates a strong psychological glitch that you can keep going back to… mentally this is SO POWERFUL, she will feel turned on but not know why, her attraction for you will then cease to be contextual, she will think it is a general desire to have sex with you.

Hope this helps in some way.

Thanks dude. Always nice to get a new perspective.

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The Lay Reports.
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This is something that I do. It is amazing to see it broken down. I never really saw the complexities of my actions, it just kind of happened.

What you say is exactly what I can visualize from my own experiences.




Thank you for your articulation.

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Went out last night. Met JACKAL, DIAMOND and DOLPHIN at Island Bar.

INCOMPLETE ATTEMPT
1) JACKAL asked me to open a three set at the bar(3 short HB7's). I hesitated a bit but went up to them and asked which is the best place to go around in Arcadian. They said Poppy Red and then I thanked them and ejected.

PARTIAL SUCCESS
2) JACKAL asked me to open a two set standing in Mailbox near Bar room bar(2 HB7.5's). I went up to them, and did my compliment-opinion-compliance handshake thing. JACKAL joined in and talked to them for a while. Something was wrong with JACKAL's negging as he joked about her boyfriend or something and they pointed to their husbands sitting in the restaurant nearby. We ejected with high fives. From this set, I felt that my opinion opener "who laugh more ? " was a bit lame as they were laughing at my opener.

PARTIAL SUCCESS
3) At Slug and Lettuce, Frey asked me to open a two set sitting ouside(HB5's). I went to them and did the compliment-opinion-handshake. The opinion opener who laughs more could be a bit too silly for ugly girls with personalities. They were two medical students who found it pretty lame or they were overanalysing the question. Frey came in to wing and started a normal discussion about pointers(where they were from, how do they know each other etc). They got bored and went back into the bar.

JACKAL asked me to open a couple of sets in the Slug and outside as well. But I could not muster the courage. I will open atleast ten sets today and put a nail on the coffin of AA.


WINGING

1)I went on the streets with DIAMONDS. He opened a HB3 and talked to her while we walked along for a mile with her and then number closed her.

2)We went to Bacchus to take a leak. There he opened a mixed set with a man and two friends, a milf and a HB8 tart. He had a long conversation with them for a while and they asked us if we would join them in Chameleon. Also, they thought we were working for the bar or something because we were having this random conversation.

3) DIAMONDS tried to open another solo HB8 on the street near MAILBOX but she was not stopping.

4) In Slug, I winged DIAMONDS when he opened a 5 set of HB8's. Later JACKAL and ROMEO joined us. I just joined them but didn't say anything. I should speak something if I wing.

5) I winged JACKAL with a 2 set of HB8 blondes at the bar. I was just standing still and didnt say anything which is really lame.

I went out on my own the friday to open a few sets and actually do a bit of shopping.

First set i opened, completely rejected and she was like what a weirdo at me, classic.
I approached but didn't have her full attention and didnt get her to stop.

Second set I was walkin past a cute little asian girl, so went back after her and stopped her. We had a 4-5minute convo about what she is doing with herself and what plans she had for the weekend and number closed her, and we have been chatting since.

I was walking out of my flat a few hours later and saw a hot blonde walking over the road. I ran after her and opened her directly and negged her straight away and we had a little bit of a laugh with her and a little bit of a chat about what she is doing over the weekend etc. I n closed her and we have had a few texts, and Im literally so fucking happy with myself. I just saw her and went for it.

Sorry i haven't been out with you guys, been stuck in revising, but after 2 weeks im free! Although i'll be back at uni in Sheffield then, so i won't see you guys for a while. However i am going to be taking game, self improvement etc. way more intensely this year, even more so than last year!

This is what i'll be up to: going to go 5 nights a week for club/ bar game (i did that last year at uni as well, very fun!) and 2 sessions of day game a week. The main thing though is much more focused practice, take it one bit at a time and attempt to really master that part and set myself goals, e.g. tell one story in 10 sets tonight. I find i read and know about a lot of techniques but actually use few of them in set SPAM. I have noticed the ones i really use a lot work very well now.

The other thing is i'm going to push myself much further and harder, take every interaction as far as it can go, open impossible sets, get every date possible.

Wish me luck!

WINGING ON BROAD STREET WETHERSPOONS
I met JACKAL, DOLPHIN, VOLCANO and ROMEO in Wetherspoons on Broad Street. I winged JACKAL and ROMEO first with 2 set of MILFs. It went ok. Then I winged VOLCANO who was opening a 6 set of girls with two males in them. They were a group of actors. I just went in and gave it a shot and didn't think twice about it. Then I winged JACKAL outside where he opened a three set of (HB7, HB7, HB5) 2 Lithuanians and one Brunei. He was talking in American accent and they were quite friendly. DOLPHIN and VOLCANO later joined in this set. We later went back in to VOLCANO's huge set of actors. I think VOLCANO tried to number close one of them but I saw some chick in the group saying she doesnt give her number to strangers or something.

EMBARASSING OPENING OF TWO BLONDES OPENED IN WETHERSPOONS
I opened a two set in Wetherspoons in Victoria square and asked where snobs was. They said they didnt know and that I should ask the bartender which was a bit embarassing for me. Later ROMEO went up to the same set and had a long chat which basically means that I was severely lacking in confidence.

MILF hb9 WHO SAID WHO WANTS TO MARRY ME COULD BE A PLAYER.
Later DOLPHIN and I went to Chameleon. I had three beers there. We met our MILF HB9 friend who seems to be interested in me although the whole club's men were her friends there and it was hard to point out whom she may or may not have fucked. I did bump into her occassionally and danced with her.

EMBARRASSING OPENING OF A RUSSIAN MILF
DOLPHIN asked me to open a Russian MILF HB8 in Chameleon in the noisy dance area. I think she was moderately friendly and compliant but my drunkenness made me incapable of having any convo so i asked her if she wanted to dance and she said no.

WINGED DOLPHIN WITH THE LATVIAN BABE
DOLPHIN was talking to a Latvian HB8 who was 32 and I went up to sit with them. I didnt say anything. DOLPHIN said I ruined his game by sitting there quite. I should have introduced myself and maybe raised DOLHIN's value. DOLPHIN did introduce me to her later on but then he blamed me for ruining the set. I know how it feels but dude, you also didnt seem to be having a chance with her as she was ten years older than you and I had little to do with that.

BLONDE TWO SET WINGING WITH ROMEO
DOLPHIN and I later went to Snobs where we joined ROMEO and VOLCANO. I had a couple of more beers and got shitfaced drunk. I winged ROMEO as he opened a two set of HB7 blondes. One was married and the other had a boyfriend around which I came to know later after talking to her for a couple of minutes. Then I shook hands with the boyfriend and said they make such a sweet couple The girl said I should tell ROMEO that her friend was married. So I said why was she talking to him if she was married(I was fucking drunk and talking a lot of shit). Immediately she went to her friend and I think she asked her to stop talking to ROMEO and we had to eject from this set.

WINGING ROMEO WENT BETTER THIS TIME
ROMEO opened a three set German HB7, Hong Kong HB3 and a HB7 brunette. I winged ROMEO and talked to the other two while he talked to the German. They walked away very soon. But good job ROMEO.

COULD NOT NUMBER CLOSE...MORE KINO COMPLIANCE NEEDED
I opened a one set HB7 near the bar and had a cold reading astrology routine straightaway which went very well and guessed her sign in two attempts. She didnt want to meet up again when I asked her if we could meet on a date some other time.

GOOD RE-ENGAGEMENT SET AT THE KEBAB SHOP WHICH ENDED BADLY
Later I went to Broad street to eat something at Pit Stop at 4 AM. I met the three set 2Lithuanian and 1Brunei which JACKAL opened earlier. I just sat with them and had fries and chicken. I was really enjoying their company and talking to them but later I think I messed up a bit with my drunken shit talking. I had spent almost an hour eating with them and it was so nice but I might have been severely negging or talking like an idiot. I asked one girl if her dress was a Lithuanian costume which I thought was beautiful. She misunderstood it as a neg. Then they said they all had boyfriends to which I jokingly said that it doesn't matter but I could see they were really interested in me. One of the girls jokingly said I ruined their girls' night out and then I replied that they ruined my night too which was a bad comeback. So they said I was the one who joined them not the other way round. I said alright and left and later asked for a cigarette which they didn't want to give me. Basically I failed their stupid shit test. As gunwitch said, dont leave set until the ho says no. I perfectly ruined a nice set because I got a bit fooled by their shit test. I should have just stayed in set and could have parted with atleast a good vibe if not a number close.


NOTE TO SELF

DO THE FUCKING COMPLIANCE LADDER.

CONCLUSION : I need to thicken my skin and not be a sensitive idiot who gets offended by women's shit tests. I am still feeling the regret, embarrassment, burning and a pinching feeling of rejection from the sarging yesterday. I am not feeling good at the moment. I am feeling really bad right now because of my lack of confidence, Approach anxiety and fear of people's opinions. I want to break free from this fear. Fuck fear.

Friday Night out with THE JACKAL, DON JUAN, DOLPHIN and DIAMOND

Approached three sets tonight.

The first set I opened was a group of seven women who I opened with " Excuse me I am not asking for money but I am homeless and was wondering if one of you guys would put me up for the night" I then pointe to one of them and said you look friendly and picked her up and started to walk away with her. I chatted to the whole group for about half an hour number closed one of them. They kept asking me what I did for a living and I would not tell them and kept telling them that I was homeless and they were getting really annoyed. I started teasing one of them about how she looked homeless as her coat has a button missing,

The next set was in a bar with four women sitting down. I went over and said " I really fancy one of you but I am not going to tell you which one it is." One of the women said we are not interested so I just continued talking to the others who were just sitting quietly listenening. The one kept telling me to go away and that they were not interested but I just kept talking. I finally got the group talking to me except for the one, but I just kept throwing sly comments at her every now and then to tease like "I think your friend is annoyed because no one ever chats her up because you three are clearly the hottest" and " your friend is really in a bad mood" After about fifteen minutes the grumpy one started to join in the convo but I kept telling her to shut up and that these were my friends now and that I thought she didn't want to talk to me. I wish I could of had a picture of her face. DIAMOND introduced me to one of the guys from cola's crew and I told him to sit down and join me. I tried to number close them but they gave me a dude number so I told her to give me her phone but she wouldn't and that her boyfriend wouldn't be happy. The grumpy one then said " We have all got boyfriends and are all taken" I said " You are loving this aren't you seeing me get turned down by your friends, your just thinking one nil to me aren't you" I carried on talking for a few minutes and then left.

The next set I opened and chatted for a few minutes but guys kept coming in talking to me and lost their attention.

I then Winged DIAMOND with a set of four women who were all really friendly. We stopped with them until about two a clock by this time I was felling tired and just wanted to go home but didn't want to leave diamond on his own as he was doing really well. After we left the bar we walked with them for a whileto were they were next going then DIAMOND left and I continued to walk with them as my car was parked were the same way. As I left them I hugged them all got one of their numbers and they asked me if I wanted to go to a club with them but I was just to tired and had to be up for work in two and a half hours.