Long story shorty I was the guy she came to when she needed her ego fed. I liked her a lot, some how developed feelings and I ended up telling her I wasn't Guna be the guy she comes to when she needed her ego fed, she told me were just friends and nothing more. But yet we would hold hands in a theater and blah blah. How do I go about this? I see her partying on fb, and she seems fine, while I'm pretty much here feeling like shit. I fucked up by showing her how much I actually cared. Havent talked in a couple weeks.

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You didn't fuck up by telling her how you felt, you 'fucked up' only in the sense that you masked your true feelings toward her for so long; you short changed yourself. Next time you meet a girl you have interest in by more forthcoming. By this I mean don't get into long winded conversation about her personal woes and worries - be the guy who takes her out for the night of her life, the guy who offers her an escape. Do not try to be her moral compass, do not act like her father, do not spend endless hours talking and ruminating with her about her personal problems

She couldn't help but see you as a friend because you offered comfort, and was pretty much asexual (for her). You then told her you were taking away the one thing she valued in the relationship (being the guy she could seek guidance/help from). Once this is gone, what other motivation would she have to stick around?
Don't do this to yourself again. If you like a girl make it known (not verbally, but show her!). Don't sit in comfort so long when you've yet to build sufficient attraction.

Most every time you create this dynamic with a girl you are painting yourself into a corner - she will see you as a brother, as the 'nice guy', and will pursue other guys who will offer her a sense of adventure, and appeal to her sexual nature. Ask yourself which guy you want to be.

Realize you fostered these conditions for her to not feel you the way you wanted her, and do the opposite next time. In the mean time get out there and meet other girls man, have some fun, own your sexuality (don't shun it) after all, we are sexual beings by nature.

Dude, in the same situtation, but almost done with it. I will save you some time and thought:

You feel used.

She can go fcuk herself. Is she the best you've seen? She doesn't want it, then she can get on the bike. You don't need her, you know ten more girls that would be happy to spend time with you.

Keep your head high, never sink.

If you would of told her, " we can't be cool anymore because I want to fuck you, I get too horny when you around".. She'd be all over you at this point..

You used her just as much as she used you.. You wanted some female attention so you let her run to you when you needed it. You guys both got something out of it, don't go playing the victim.

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