| I estimate about 20% of attractive girls are flakes. This means she
is the type who is wishy-washy about making plans, slow to return
phone calls, and prone to cancelling dates at the last minute. How
much time and energy should you put into her until you cut your
losses and walk away?
It will seem like a huge accomplishment if you bang a flake because
of all the hurdles she put you through prior to sex, but you'll
still experience a nagging feeling that doesn't allow you to enjoy
the success as much as you should. It's because the flake is
controlling the frame. She is getting what she wants at the pace
she wants while you are mostly tagging along for the ride.
Basically she turns you into a puppy dog that is grateful scraps
were put out.
Compare that to banging a girl who follows your rules and lead. She
drives to your house to cook for you, she takes off her clothes
when you tell her to, and she calls you after sex and tries to set
up the next date. You enjoy the sex AND the process to get there,
which, in theory, is how it should be.
It's hard to define a strategy that works well with flakes. Some
flakes seem to respond if you chase them, others respond if you
don't. The most optimal strategy preserves your alpha status while
leading to success. That means you have to be cool and not drool
over her, and pull back when she does to let her know that you have
other things going on.
In the end the flake has to make the decision to stop flaking in
order to allow the seduction to continue. There is absolutely
nothing you can do to stop her from flaking, but you must stay
confident and non-needy. While a passive approach to the game in
general will lead to less results, I believe this is the best way
to deal with a girl who is pulling away from you more than coming
in.
After a while of no contact, throw some bait here or there in the
form of an email, random call, facebook message, or party invite,
but don't make it seem like it is important you get with her. You
don't want her to think that
you like her more than she likes you,
which is one reason why she flakes in the first place.
It will be inevitable that you play a good game where you get some
action short of sex, but she simply won't allow you to take things
to the next level. If you've exhausted all other reasonable
options, you will have to make the decision to fold your cards and
walk away. Cut her off and don't respond to her obvious attempts to
keep the attention train rolling.
By rejecting women in this way, for flaking or not doing what you
want, your mind over time will begin to project high value with
future girls you meet. Since we only turn down what is beneath us,
we trick our brain into thinking desirable women possess less value
than we have.
You will never have to explain to other girls that you've turned
down desirable women (a trait possessed by the most successful
men), because they can feel it in the way you talk and act.
You may be thinking, "Well, I will get less notches if I don't
pursue those flakes." This is possible but there has to be a
balance between your happiness level and sexual variety, where you
are having sex with the women you want but enjoying it in a low
stress way, minimizing the bullshit that makes you think less of
the game.
If you are a game newbie, it's not a bad idea to pursue a couple
flakes for educational purposes to observe and learn from their
behavior, but not because you see her as something long-term who
can provide you with happiness. It's extremely rare that a flake
will make for a nice longer-term relationship.
HAPPY HUNTING FUCKERS!!
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