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I know I've brought this up before a while back.
But I'm still stuck.
I've read so many PUA books and guides. Styles, Mysterys, Gambler, Di Carlo, De Angelo and so forth.
The majority of these books begin with a chapter on the purpose of life, to survive and replicate e.t.c. The women screen the men, with the healthiest genes, high status, prospects et cetera. You've seen this all before.
I'm very deaf in both ears but I speak, does this mean I have no chance at all? The women's mind may say "he may make my children deaf" then they screen me out. (No history of deafness in my family). Since I've joined this forum. I've had not much luck. I've kissed a few women, but that's when they are drunk. They then don't want to know me when they realise I have a hearing problem. It's never got any further than this.
Do those methods and ebooks apply to me? or for 'normal' men with no problems and just need to work on their approach anxiety?
Hell no! Fitness cues can be conveyed in a myriad of ways. Personality characteristics can also STRONGLY convey one's mental fitness and hence represent attributes necessary for survival and ultimately replication (e.g. character attributes which have transcended folklore such as being noble, virtuous, compassionate, etc.). Other less tangible attributes, though no less important than physical cues are crucial in attracting mates. Intelligence, for example can be displayed in a variety of ways such as being conveyed through humour (having a good comedic sense suggests intelligence).
I have a friend who is paralysed from the waist down and confined to a wheel chair - he's a very inspiring guy, very positively minded who didn't let his 'handicap' become a handicap, but rather as a source to redefine himself (he became paralysed in a dirty biking accident in high school). Incidentally, he pulls in more women than almost any other guy I know. He dates 4-6 women concurrently and is always adding new irons on the coal.
Things only become impediments/obstacles, only insofar as you allow them to be. If you let your 'disability' define you you'll view life from the passenger seat through a very narrow frame of reference.
Btw, for all reading this thread, this guy DOES NOT use any PUA methods; he's not even aware of the community, he doesn't use any sweet one liners or openers other than "Hi, I'm so and so". His method? Shot-gun approach; "it's a numbers game, if I get rejected it's like water on a duck's back...I just go on to the next one without skipping a beat." Take it for what it's worth.