Hello!

Im new to this forum as you can see, and have known about PU/gaming for a while now. But have never really got really IN to or study it, just the basic things.. and if it wasnt for those basic things that i know about PU, i wouldnt be in the relationship im in now with the girl I have been in loved with for some mouth now... And yes, I can say this is my first REAL relationship, where I can see a LTR with her.

So now to the question: WHat do i have to do and not to do, to not fuck it up?
What I means is, how do i hold the tension up, communication, not falling back,Do not seem like needy etc.. All the importen things to get the relationship up-going?



Thanks for all the advice Have a nice day!

the-sixteen-commandments-of-poon-vt9577 ... xteen+poon

Good read.

Somethings here a bit extreme, but is worth a read to start.

If you want to, I can elaborate when I get home.

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Thanks, I hope you can do that..
the thread you showed me was a bit extreme as you said. I would say some of those isnt so healthy when it comes to relationship as many of those who have replayed pointed

Its alot inspired on that thread

First - Only give compliments when you truly think she is deserves. It’s like Pavlov experiment never heard go google it, and you will see why I’m telling you this. Or for example you guys go to a party and she is really hot, tell her this. Don’t be a loser and everyday tell her she is beautiful it can work on first 3 months but then is game over. And important dont compliment only her looks, specially on your girlfriend. THIS HUGE. its good to boost, but even the hottest girl on the planet is insecure, and sometimes her beauty is what make her insecure you feeling me?

Second – Fuck her good, which means you should read some of sex material is out there. And talk this about with her, some girls are close minded about sex, so talk with her, be interested in what she likes. Experiment spontaneous on bed.

Third - You will not be manipulated by her crying, yelling, sexual withdrawal, jealousy plotlines, shit tests, be rational here, DON’T show any emotion when she is doing any of this, don’t lose calm nothing, this is important.

Four – It really nice being together every day but, this kills the relationship trust me, so I hope you have an hobby if not start one. Don’t spend every day with her, and a lot of guys alienated their friends, they only go out with their girlfriend, don’t be that guy, encourage her to go with her friends also. And some time to time mix the group together

Fifth- Don’t leave PUA it’s a must in relationship why?. Push and Pull works like a charm so learn to do this. Interesting also works, you don’t know how important that you are accepted by her friends, and maybe one of them being attracted, believe me it will make your G/f want more.

Six- Again from time to time reward her(if she is being nice) with something romantic, a romantic dinner, a hotel getaway on another town near you, something spontaneous, and a surprise.

Seven- Only tell her sorry; when you know you are wrong. Not to stop and argument or a fight, THIS IS HUGE.

Eight – Be hard to get… when you talk with a girl about feelings don’t be rational be irrational. Keep her always guessing.

Nine – This remind a friend of mine that accidently told his girlfriend I love you on the first three weeks, don’t be like him. Let her say first and then only then if you truly believe it.

Ten- She is not your world. So don’t let her become this, all girls want to be the world of the man, that what challenges them, to mean something but when they feel they have that power on your world, its bye bye time. A lot of the guys you see coming here and including me once a upon a time, its because of this. BE ALWAYS A CHALLENGE. Girls are not rational like man,they are more emotional so they respond to things like uncertatiy , jealousy, indiference, missing you. this is what you shall try that she feels for you

Eleven- You are the man so you decide, almost everything or make her decide but you give the options of course this is not so linear, like the way I’m telling this I hope you get the picture.

Twelve- if you guys “breakup” or have a fight or a break, and you know you have absolutely reason, and she is the one who is wrong. Don’t contact her, don’t late night calls while drunk. Let her come to you, of course a women wont blatantly say “im sorry can we try again” , she will make an excuse to talk to you, Don’t be too easy forgiving her maybe the first times but then, she will respect you in the morning.

Thirteen- Don’t put much empathize of what she is telling you things like “ you are the best boyfriend I ever had”, “ I don’t want to lose you are the man of my life”, remember this may be true at that moment but what is true today, maybe is not true tomorrow, she can be saying this 6 months for now to another guy. So don’t empathize so much on her words more on her actions.


Fourteen- Who has the power of the relantioship is the one who care less.

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!

Snake, it looks like you've got links to some of the best posts here. Could you please make a thread with these gems all together?

I lost most of them, when my laptop died.

But will see what I can do.

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Obrigado

Thanks for the replay;) I have some question to some of the things you listed.
We have distance relationship and works perfectly fine. But i have a up-follow question: How should you balance the calling and SMS. I know that you have to somewhere find the balance, but how can you find it or what is a "good balance" when its come to this? Is it good to be unavailable for a whole day, and not answer her?
Do you have any examples of Push/pull when it comes to relationship? or regular examples ?
Any example? Is it good/healthy to let her be in the position where she feel unsecured where she stand in the relationship?

I had also a distance relantioship.

She is your girlfriend if she calls you 9 am you are not going to call her at 12am. Some guys here will tell you to do that. Im against it.

I adhere to 2\3 rule. For every two calls I would reward her behavior with one call on the next day for example.

If she sent me a txt I would take time 15m to 30m. If I were in a class would only respond when class was over.

Dont talk much on the phone. 15- 30m per day. Just to talk how your day was. And to flirt sexually heavy with her.

If she had any problem I would fuck my rule and would try to be there period.

Push pull topic,

Physical push pull works. Kisses sex...

For example on the phone you go very romantic on one day and the next day normal....

Another example, if she isnt grabbing the initiave for example calling you, you call her two days or three days straigh, then no contact waiting for her.

Same when you are with her. Do something romantic unexpected. then back to your behavior. Dont be all sappy and need all the time. get it?


Unsecured? how so? She just has to feel she is not the only girl interested in you. Ofc you are not going to say "Omg I have this friend who is flirting with me is such a babe".

For example I would dodge all those questions if" I like you and all that shit, if she special"

But would tell her when she deserved and on very rare ocassion.

But I would demonstrate that more by my actions than by words.

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