There is this foreign girl who works in the same wider team as me at work, who is on a 6 month placement. So far, and as explained in my previous post got-to-get-this-girl-before-she-leaves- ... highlight=), there has been lots of flirting (loads of kino, teasing and laughing) but I’ve never hooked up with her. Now there is under 2 weeks left before she goes back to her home country and I’m starting to get that sinking feeling of regret.

In the past 3 weeks over Christmas I tried to arrange a date with her but as her friend was visiting, she invited me along with them both which didn’t give me a chance to escalate, though it was a good evening. Also, I tried sorting something out just before New Years but as she was away for a few days it has had to wait.

Then, and what I thought was finally, last week I sent her a text on Tuesday evening asking if she wanted to go for a drink Wednesday after work. She didn’t reply until Wednesday morning at work when she sent me an email saying she is going into town after work and yes we could go for a drink then.


Though, I think partly because I wasn’t feeling like it that day (feeling very tired), partly because I was irritated with her for taking so long to get back to me and partly due to stupidity, I said no I would prefer the next day (Thursday) for a drink. She didn’t reply, so on Thursday afternoon I sent her an email asking her if she was coming for a drink, but she said no as she was going to the gym straight after work (which she usually does).

I feel I can’t keep asking her out as it’s getting ridiculous and that if she doesn’t propose something in the next couple of weeks before she goes, then that could be it.

I’m not quite sure what to do as I’m starting to feel major regret wishing I had gone for a drink with her that first evening. I’m not sure if feeling regret is a worse feeling than feeling no regret and getting rejected…..

Perhaps I should give it one last go, or just feel regret and accept it’s not going to/meant to happen?

I know what you mean bro.

think about it yourself:

you give it one last go:

1)you get rejected and chances are make a horrible last impression and spoil the friendship you have with her
2)fuck her-she leaves.-still didn't accomplish anything did you?


in the end its all up to you, but the best way to get rid of that sickening feeling is to game other women and have a good time. This is life and shit like that will happen whether you want or not.

Regret is far worse. At least with rejection you'll know.

As papicholo said.. Decide for yourself but rejection is ALWAYS better then regret. You won`t get over her soon and it won`t be good for you if you will keep it inside. Just take it easy, step by step, spontaneous and then at the right moment close or whatever.. But it`s up to you, but from my experience either you try and close or you get over it, but in this case it`s better that you don`t have contact for a while. Decide what suits you, what YOU want

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I kept the truth from a girl I pined for almost 6 months, it was brutal (this was many years ago).

To this day, every now and then I am reminded of her. I'd far sooner take rejection over regret. Regret = living in the past.

From my experience, until she fucks you off or you get together with her, you have problems...

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yea i would much more perfer rejection over regret. Regret will alwyas leave you with that "fuck what if..." feeling you know? and rejection would mean you tried and you had an outcome. I say go for it cause you have nothing to lose, and only to gain.

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Thanks for all the replies. Every single reply was spot on. Those replies reinforced exactly what I was feeling, so I decided to go for it today. Found out something positive too.

On Friday she was meant to be going out for drinks after work with some people from the office (I had other plans), but she told me today as everyone else pulled out and it ended up only being her and one other guy (who I know clearly likes her), that she didn’t go for drinks with just him as she is shy. I emailed her later on saying that we should finally go for drinks when we both have time, and mentioned “just the 2 of us, but if ur shy lol….”. She replied saying “for you, I’m not shy lol.” That was good but…

After I emailed her if we could do Wednesday this week, she said she is away from Wednesday onwards and asked me if next Monday was ok. As she leaves on the Friday next week, it’s looking like it will be make or break on one date. No room for error, no second chances etc, and all the pressure on one date…

Not confirmed the day with her yet, but thanks all, I certainly am not feeling the regret anymore. Just hoping I actually go for it on the date!