Hello everyone. I am a guy who's pretty average with girls. I know how to socialize with them and most basic things. My biggest problem is my mindset. Whenever I see a guy with a girlfriend I get kind of depressed because I don't have that myself at that time. I think it;s some sort of jealousy or something. Even if it's not his gf just a guy with many girls I feel like I am lower value and my game goes down. Do any of you guys feel or felt that way? And how do I fix that? Thanks in advance.

Pick up isn't a competition. From now on whenever you see a guy doing well with women try to feel deep down and chose to be happy for him because he is experiencing success. Your journey is going to be unique to you. It is a waste of energy concerning yourself with such things.

Start fresh by going out with the intention of making others happy instead of fixing your own problems. Altruism can do wonders for your mindset. Then approach approach approach.

I also suggest checking out the NLP logical levels of change

http://bit.ly/u2xyAi

Cheers,
Trajan
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Thanks. Can you go a little bit more detailed.

Sure

http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/nlp ... s.html#spi

This is the NLP logical levels of change... From what I've read you need some work on your inner game. Go through these steps to give yourself a purpose and visualize how the decision to be confident and approach women is going to effect you in 5 years, 10 years and so on... really think about it because you don't want to waste any more energy thinking about other guys and their success.

Getting caught up in how other people are doing in the bar to me is an excuse to avoid improving your own game. Could be that you're a little afraid to take the first few steps (There is nothing wrong with this). I think you would benefit greatly from daily meditation. What helped me get through the tough times early on was a self-hypnosis tape. This method helped me to relax and with that I was able to access relaxation when my anxiousness was getting in the way of what I wanted to accomplish when I was out. Go to a book store in the self help section and find one that suits your needs.

Once you're able to relax you will be more able to focus on what you're doing which is the only important thing in the world.. you will be able to work through material and start getting consistent positive results. If you want to talk about this further or if this doesn't make sense to you email me on my website. I respond to those much more frequently.

Cheers!

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NLP is bunk, and has been largely discredited by empirical research.

Well as a psychology major I disagree. But I hope whatever works for you continues to do so!

NLP in most scenarios basically boils down to a more rapid form of behavioral conditioning which is a largely accepted school of psychological thought.

Cheers

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Trajan
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No need to get jealous and/or down on yourself. Observe what the guy is doing and see if you can emulate some of his behavior into your own game. Mindset is key and yours isn't in a good place...its cool work on you get some self confidence before you work on your game.

Trajan thanks for the response I bookmarked your website and will read what you linked to me. And thanks to everyone.