Hi guys, some advice needed.

I have been happily seeing two girls for a while, one hottie in my home city the other works with me but is based in another city. All good, happy times.

About a month ago a girl moved into my house - I currently share with two girls and my guy mate.

I had instant full on attraction with the new girl that moved in. There was some serious chemistry.

The problem is - she has a long distance 'kind of' boyfriend that she met while working abroad for the summer. He's been over but - he can't get a visa. Oh dear nevermind.

On the first night we all went out as housemates, she told me she hadn't cheated on him, but that 'it had been a while since she had any action...' - of course we ended up kissing, but no further.

I brought back one of the girls that week - and it was strange, my housemate acted oddly around me. The next day she mocked me as she heard me sleeping with the girl. Apparently it was quite loud...!

We had some wine... kissed again.

Then over Christmas it blew up, we started sleeping together and getting really close.

She had a few mini freak outs during this time, especially when we first started to get physical - because of the boyfriend.

Since the New Year though she has shut it down and put some distance between us. She say's she has feelings for me, but that she really likes this guy and doesn't want to get with anyone (me) while she feels this way. She also wants to see him again and continue what they have. She's started Video chatting him pretty regular this week. It's been separate rooms again...

I'm not sure what angle to play here guys so was hoping for some advice.

I actually really like this girl and she likes me - but I know I need to tread really carefully.y Even though it's basically a long distance 'holiday romance', with no real future, if I push her she'll dig in, and it will strengthen her relationship.

I have backed off - while remaining flirtatious but also told her one of the other girls is popping over this week (which she is). The housemate didn't seem pleased about it.

I'm bit out of game in this situation guys. And tomorrow night we're all out again... I don't know whether to maxmise the chemistry and bond we have and try to win her back to my bed, or block her for shutting the situation down in the first place.

Advice needed!

Im not sure but i think

She is feeling slut because she cheated on her boyfriend.

She also knows that she sent a wrong message to you.

She freaked out, because she probably developed feelings for you, but has sent a message to you IM A CHEATER BUT I DONT WANT YOU TO SEE ME LIKE THIS.

Now its impossible to have a relantioship with you, because in her back of her mind she knows what she did was wrong. And you probably think she is slut, no girl wants to feel like this. So you have to take this ideia out of her mind.

And now she is also salvaging and try to grab a man that she likes but its totally unaware of her cheating past.

She is going for the safe bet.

If you like her... I would tell her.

Would try and open her eyes, on what she is doing.

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!

I wanted to give an update on this, still need advice as I think i'm losing control of the situation a bit.

The housemate shut it down after my last post, she said she still wanted the long distance guy.

I thought fine, brought over a girl I causally see and nailed her. The housemate heard - went out and didn't come back for the eve.

The next day we were back on.

Since then, she has freaked out once or twice and shut it down. She doesn't want to like two guys apparently, and isn't ready to let him go. But things keep happening anyway and we'll end up back in bed.

Last Thurs she shut it down but we still spent the night. I went out with another causal on the Sat eve, and my housemate kept asking to meet up - we did and I ended up going back to hers, spending the whole Sunday together.

We have a lot of chemistry, but it doesn't seem to change the situation with her long distance bloke though, she'll be back to Skyping him a few hours later, telling him she's been faithful.

She's also planning to go see him in Feb.

What I don't like is not having the control, that's not normal - things are on her terms, and shes made it clear shes not willing to let the other guy go. I don't want to play second best and there is a danger of that.

So what's the next move guys? Do I shut it down, display some testament of willpower until the long distance relationship inevitably collapses? Or do I do what ive been doing, ignore he exists and keep the encounters going?