I joined this site back in 2010 and pua has definitely changed my life. Naturally I am.. well was a shy person . Now I am confident in talking to women.. well most of the time. But I am still continuously reverting back AA. And yes I have gotten over it many times with the aid of alcohol, opening everyone I see in places or simply just doing stupid shit that makes me feel alive.

But then it comes back again and its like I have to do all this crazy shit over again since its the only thing that works.

Today I went out to daygame, at first I was confident as fuck, it was flowing out of my arse. But as each girl I saw that I didn't approach my confidence went down. First the bus girl, then the coffee shop, then the girl with her mum etc. I have no problem talking to random people walking asking shit, no problem talking to someone that works in a place e.g. a convience store.

But for some fucking reason women that I see walking and shopping I constantly mindfuck myself and a day where I am out for about 2hours ends in only like 3 girls usually right at the end who are usually married or boyfriends which doesn't help with motivation.

I constantly make excuses in my head like shes not good enough or shes too young shes too old which is stupid because by the time I walk past a really hot girl its too late and shes behind me. I have some sick problem that i find things wrong with women not only in meeting them but also relationships that i sabotage but i wont get into that.

My brain is scattered posting this and need some advice this is a recurring problem for me.

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Dude. Chill the fuck out. You're going approximately a million mph with this "I keep making up stupid excuses" bullshit.

Listen up! You don't have a problem. It's a sticking point. You used to have trouble even approaching women at all, right? How did you get over it? My guess (and correct me if I'm wrong) is that you did it like the rest of us. You failed. And after you failed, you failed some more. However, you kept trying; kept learning; kept getting better.

The best way to get over this irrational fear is to force yourself to just go try it out! If you make an ass of yourself, oh well.

Strangers are just friends we haven't met yet. Pretend like you're going up to them and you already know who they are. "You're already acquainted, so it's not awkward." Just keep that mindset. Frame the set and go in.

FAIL FAIL FAIL. It works.

There are a couple techniques you can use to get out of your head. These are ones that I personally use.

1) Talk to everyone
2) Compliment and walk away
3) Record your results

1 - Talk to everyone: When I am in a public place like a grocery store or a starbucks I know that there is a chance I might see a beautiful girl. So to prepare for that beforehand I just game everybody. The old lady picking through the vegetables doesn't give me approach anxiety so I say to her, 'hi, i am looking to eat some different veggies lately, any good ones that you recommend?' The person who I am walking by will probably think it is funny if i say, 'excuse me sir' in a dramatic tone of voice and the mom carrying groceries with kids will probably laugh when I walk in front of the doors which automatically open and say, 'hey let me hold this door for you.' By the time I have started that many conversations it gets easy to talk to the girl.

2- Compliment and Walk Away: Just walk up to the girl with an intent to compliment her and walk away. 'Hi, I saw you and just wanted to say that I think you carry yourself really well." Then smile and walk away. This is a warm up set. Maybe she will sense that you are leaving and try to get you to stay and talk. Who knows?

3 - Record your results. Sometimes you only realize how few girls you actually approach when you record your results. So go ahead and make a promise to yourself to talk to 10 new girls a week. Record all of you results. This is the most important tip.

Alright man well dont worry a very solveable problem. First i would say to ingrain your subconscious with the Abundance mentality letting go of a lot of AA and also do some affirmations everday before you fall asleep, right after you wake up, or before you go out sarging to get rid of AA. One more tip you could do though is find a place to touch yourself on your body, a happy memory, and a code word that you enjoy and whenever you need a boost of confidence say your word and touch your spot while thinking of the happy memory. The trick is to get the word, body part, and memory all tuned to react at the same time. Hopefully all of those help they sure helped me, but like the other guys said practice makes perfect and dont worry if you lock up a little bit with approaching just be happy you approched at all man count your wins not yours losses. You can do this though man dont worry.

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