What do you look out for or do to tell the difference when texting a girl if she doesnt reply..

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Do nothing. If she doesn't respond to a text she is probably just busy. Even if she isn't, there is a good chance you will come off as needy. If she responds later, ignore it for the night. The next day tell her that you were out. Don't let it seem like she held you back from having fun.

Fair point of action...

But what do you actually look for in terms of shit test.. and do you believe in the theory that every 'no reply' is either a concious or unconscious shit test giving you the option (if you can say the right thing) to get back in with the girl?

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Well girls are ficcle. Sometimes you just have to catch them at the right time, or catch their attention on a high lasting level. Yes if you say the exact right thing yes she may reply. The risk of getting it wrong is too great in that situation. What I would do is the next time you see or text, lightly mention another girl that you had the time of your life with on that night. Don't over do it, just mention her even if she is fake. An illusion of another girl is just as good as a real one in this senario. You can take it as far as you want (I fell in love with/ had the time of my life with/ whatever), but just mention it once lightly. If she asks follow up questions dodge them. If all goes right she will be jellous or at least curious.

Bad idea.

Care to expand on that papi?

A lot of girls can see right through this, not to mention can be put-off entirely by a guy mentioning hanging out with other women particularly so early in the game when a fair amount of attraction has yet to be built. We don't know how interested she is in this guy, she may be on the fence entirely so telling her he's been hanging with girl(s) may just be enough to make her walk.

I'd take to your suggestion if there was strong proof she was very interested and invested in this guy, but we don't know this (unless the OP isn't giving us all the information).

The question was more of a generic one. I have been in this situation a number of times before. You mention 'on the fence' which is a very good phrase. Alot of girls, who have gone to the bother of being in contact with a guy in the first place or had a previous relationship with the guy, are probably on the fence when they dont reply.
I think sometimes the mind expects the worst and alot of guys (like me) just dont know how to test the waters to see what the real reason is.

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I'll admit there is a chance she walks, but if done correctly this can be social proof and adds a level of scarcity. Don't go on and on about other girls, just mention them quickly once. I find that this can kick up her determination for you.


But yes take my advice with a grain of salt.

Ex;
She texts you and says sorry for flaking...ect

You text back"that's alright, my friend Maggie was in town and we had a great time at...."