Hi, in 2010, I met and fell in love with a girl. She said that she wasn't going to be more than a friend because her breakup was too recent. But after a few weeks, we became intimate and it lasts for about three months until she met another guy from which she fell in love.

After she told me this, I felt in a depression for a few months because I was in a oneitis. We kept contact by email but not that much. Eventually, a few months after, she had a breakup with her boyfriend and when I heard about this, I had the idea to get her back (bad idea).

Eventually, I became lame and needy and five months ago she told me by SMS that she is not interested in continuing to see me like this. We said adios and from this point I felt a real lack of pressure on me. I felt better because I know I lost her and it's finish, completely. I knew that it was impossible to be in a relationship with her so I said to myself that I needed to look forward and do something with my life. I was just sad that we couldn't stay friends. Only friends.

So about one month ago, I wrote her an email describing my mistakes, lame and needy guy ... and that I understand why she doesn't want to stay friends with me. And I finished my email by opening a window for a friendship only relation if she thinks that we have something to share ...

No answer from her after this email but on the 1st of January, I received an email from her saying Happy new year and wishing me the best in love, health ...

My question is, do you think she wants to reconnect with me as a friend or I am just imagining something? I know a lot of you will say, let her go ... but today it's very clear in my mind that I am not in love with her anymore and a love relationship would be impossible between us.

So, I am waiting for your advice. Thanks in advance!

Hi mate,

i hate to break it to you, but i think that you are accidently in her contacts list and you got a non personal merry xmas.

You can only be sure that she wants to reconnect as a friend once she contacted you, in person. By that i mean: phonecall, real life, chat or an email from which you can deduct that she actually read yours.

Until then, i dont think so, but its always possible. Although, from experience, i know how things like that can turn out. The thing i learned from it: dont put effort in trying to fix it.

cheers!

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More precisely she sends me a message via facebook. I removed her from my facebook a few months ago so there is no mistakes with her message and it was send only to me.

It's likely a chain SMS msg. I get them from a girl I liked (but never dated) from my gym. Sometimes I'll take it as an opportunity to engage her anyway (I've got nothing to lose), although I don't ask her out. When I do see her in the gym again I'll probably re-establish rapport (we've always had really great conversations).

It's not a chain message because she said my name twice in her message and she related to something just the two of us know.

If you want to pursue that's your choice just keep your expectations in check that it may only be as friends. She has a history with you, knows what you're all about it's unlikely she wants to rekindle that unless you've completely reinvented yourself and she's attracted to this.

Ah ok. I didnt know this, obviously. But still, i dont think there is a possible reconnection. That it was a message only to you still doesnt touch the subject of the mail you wrote her.

cheers

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Like the naked leads the blind.
I know I'm selfish, I'm unkind.
Sucker love I always find,
Someone to bruise and leave behind.
placebo - every me, every you

Ah ok. I didnt know this, obviously. But still, i dont think there is a possible reconnection. That it was a message only to you still doesnt touch the subject of the mail you wrote her.

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No, I know.

It appears your are only trying to convince yourself of something that you want... When in all reality, she was just checking to see if she still had you wrapped around her finger. It's a female ego thing... And in all actually, you are certainly not over here because you are over analyzing a happy holidays message. I'm sure she sent happy holidays to a ton of other people as well.

It was nothing special.

Get a grip on your life, shes just one girl.

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Let's flip the characters around. What if she was the homely girl who sat around like a dope waiting for you to break up with every girlfriend so that she could suck on your messy seconds cock . . . you wouldn't want to date her either.

^This is what you're doing. Forget who sent what message to who and why and when. Thinking about all of this is an exercise that will eventually turn you into a eunuch.

Be glad you have some balls left. Every day you walk out, you will face hundreds of women that cross your path. Stop one. Have a chat. Get a life. Oddly enough, this is what will get even THIS GIRL interested in you.

Thanks for your help. I will move on and meet other girls. If she write me, that's ok but if she doesn't that's ok also.

Even if you want to reconnect a friendship with her, i really don't think it's been a long enough time frame for you to not slip back into old ways. 5 Months really isn't a long time.

Try to get rid of the "all or nothing" attitude. Plucking daisies reciting, "She loves me loves me not," is a 12 year old girl's domain.

If she texts you, focus on THAT interaction instead of dreaming up silly scenarios. You can even reach out to her and see what she's up to. . . no big deal.

Very good point kasabi. I will try to get rid of this attitude. Thanks!