Hey Guys,

Been checking this site out for a while and suddenly came across the realisation that i hadn't even signed up, figured its about time i actually introduce myself and start changing my life.

To whoever does read this, just call me Ant.

At the moment i am based in Bournemouth (UK), a third year student looking to graduate in June. Im 21 years old and got into pickup roughly a year and a half back, how i got into the concept is long, ill try and make it as short as possible.

Basically, before university i was with a girl for four years, i broke up with her just before coming to university. Initially i believed i was batting way above my average, all my friends couldn't believe what i'd pulled off. She was a 9-10 when i came to break up with her, isimply realised that she didn't make he happy, was incredibly possessive and finally took a dose of 'man the **** up' and ended it. This of course went to my ego, in my naivety i believed if i could get her i could get anyone?

We remained good friends and out of guilt i never made any advances with other girls, literally had tonnes of opportunities but never progressed anything. Heck, once a girl called me inviting me to dinner, (easily a 9, dancer/singer) and i said no because i was running low on money, took me fifteen minutes to click. I then slapped myself.

So anyway, just before university my best mate shows me this book, 'The Game', explains how much i need to read it, its awesome he says. However in my phase of arrogance i turned him down, why would i need that? Little did i know if i had read it when he first told me, these last few years could have possibly been the most epic of my life, but screw it, its why im here, to make the rest even more so.

After a rough first year at university (family issues), i get no success, nyada. Nothing, i know, disgrace to students right?

In my second year, two friends and i said what would be awesome is going out, and setting each other challenges. Here i remember the book, said yeah lets get it. However, My friends stopped reading it, (there both dyslexic) the one is quite a natural, the other is incredibly shy. So im in it on my own and the only other mate i have who is aware of 'The Game' is a 3 hour drive away.

Unfortunately, then loads more personal issues kicked in with family and health. I was a wreck, became a recluse, even though in my first year i got no action, i was the party leader. I threw the parties, had all the friends, knew everyone. This went downhill. After a rough year i started again in September.

Up until now, ive met alot of people, made out with a few and got quite a few numbers. However, these dont go anywhere. Ive been waiting for different friends to help motivate me but at the end its myself i have to blame. I want to become more active in the area. My immediate area of trouble is opening, i still dont comfortably open or approach, i have occasionally. The one time i approached, completely sober, i number closed the lead singer of a female metal band. First approach.

If i can get through this obstacle i'll be fine, its just getting the motivation to do it. Thats why im here.

Cutting the rest short as this is an insanely long post, my hobbies are Music, guitar, VFX, i also script write for films and direct. I have participated in various martial arts, but aren't as religious in my training as others.

Honestly, i just want to be social again, i want to live in the moment. I dont care much for sleeping around, my first relationship was insanely sexually active. So sex doesn't mean much to me. Dont get me wrong, its a damned bonus, but i've had enough so im not desperate.

I just want to know i gave it my all. I want to be able to look back and say i made those days count, and didn't waste time settling for people im not happy with.

Anyone in the Bournemouth area want to get in touch, send me a message. I look forward to posting.

Ant