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My biggest problem right now is how to go from the opener to DHV. I don't know whether to go into a story right away, or immidiatly start negging the target. For example: "Hey I gotta get back to my buddy's soon but can I get your opinion on something real quick" (girls "yeah") "Is it better to use conditioner before or after you shampoo" I know this isn't a great opener, I'm just giving an example (girls "after/before") Then I don't know what to do from there. Should I say "oh well my ex girlfriend always mentioned that I should use conditioner more cause she didn't like my hair" ( insert neg here ) "Kind of like your hair ( to the target)" The whole DHV phase isn't as clear to me.
Hey mate!
I see your problem. When i started with pickup, i had a somewhat similar problem. I got a couple of things to say on this subject though, so bear with me.
First, i am going to tell you how i did it. I always used the same opener, as i liked it very much. It was simple: Hi, how are you? sometimes followed by:'and how was your day today?'. The trick was: i didnt take shit for an answer. If they answered: my day was good, i would just look at them as if i was suspecting more. They would then look at me with '...??what? i just told you! You wanna know more?' at that moment i would say: Like... just good? or excellent? i mean, good is so general! Explain yourself!.
So i actually expected a big and good answer. Why? so i could pick in on things they said, showing interest in them but in a very indirect way. non sexual, non threatening. just as a very social dude, with as goal getting to know people.
The 'how was your day' question, usually follewed up. How was it? what did you do so it was a good day? so it was a bad day? What happened you are exhausted. Do you understand? If she said: hell, it was a good day because i rolled tampons all day, you are allowed to say: bwaak! really? i cant imagine you can like rolling tampons. What make you like rolling tampons?
You see, if you really dont like rolling tampons, its ok to say, as rolling tampons is a bit superficial. You can probably relate more to the underlying feeling that makes her like rolling tampons. so she can say: i like rolling tampons because it makes me feel so... relaxed. OMG, you can relate to feeling relaxed!! So you can say: aah really? well, i feel relaxed when listening to fart sounds. etc etc.
This is a great way of DHV (i hate the term, really). You should be looking for something that is either very interesting to you or which seems odd to you. Why? because it also tells her things about you. It gives you a way to create rapport, to elicit values and emotions (yeah, you feel relaxed when you listen to fart sounds. You should really see the effect when you describe in detail how relaxed you feel. If you like that, you should try describing a more sexual state, like excitement...
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Summarized, as a pua, you should be creating opportunities for her to show you how unique she is. In that answer she gives you, you need to look for interesting points and ask about them. Those points (for the dummies) are usually things she likes or loathes, heavy emotions, so you can elicit them or flip them (when it is a negative emotion). YOU CAN RELATE TO EMOTIONS. This creates rapport. If you really had fun during the interaction (which may take from 30 min to multiple hours), tell her: hey, you are really fun! lets meet again!
Also, when she gives you information that is valuable (info that shows who she is) give her a compliment, like: i think that women who roll tampons are sexy. something like that, or: you look cute when you talk about much you like rolling tampons.
KEEP IN MIND: you will soon notice that there are girls who will look at you like a piece of crap. Some will really just fuck you over because you start a conversation like that. A shellshock neg is in its place here. Something like: wow, if you act like that to all good looking guys, you 'll end up on a dating site. Something like that, but always say it with a smile and then have the balls to walk away. At this stage, really, being able to NEXT will make you feel a lot better.
The other thing i wanted to say is: when you grow in you pua carreer, you will notice that terms like DHV, phases of attraction, etc etc, are getting more vague and unusable. Transition will seem like a concept that is no longer important, as it is second nature.
And one more thing about transition: i gave you pretty much info about conversation and transition, but the trick of transition is: NOBODY GIVES A FUCK ABOUT TRANSITIONS. TRANSITIONS DO NOT EXIST. You lead the conversation, if you flip subject, you flip subject. If you all of a sudden talk about sex, she will follow if she wants to. SHe will tell you if she is not comfi talking about it.
If you have any more questions, feel free to shoot!
cheers!!
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