My goal is to complete the Stylelife challenge over the course of the next three months. I know that it says it is a thirty day challenge and even inside the book Neil Strauss states that this can be be completed when you are working three jobs, I just find that I will complete it quicker if I pace myself. It's like that phrase, slow is smooth and smooth is fast. That will be my philosophy in taking this on. I have tried to complete it before and was always side-tracked by other responsibilities and changes occuring in my life. I have finaly gotten myself organized and I feel I am ready to take this on. Why do I want to finish this? Well, it is because all the women I have dated I have met through work. That puts a lot of limits on who I am able to meet. I want to expand my circle of options. When it comes to meeting women at work the first thing I don't like is having to wait for a women I am attracted to to show up and start working the same job if there are not any women I am attracted to at my job. Second, if I am seeing someone and the relationship ends it makes going to work to see this person there as well unpleasent. Finaly I don't like having to look for another job as my option for fnding new women in this narrow world I have lived in. I will post by mission and not by days as it is layed out in the book. I will aim at accomplishing these missions four days a week as a minimum. As I said before I will be pacing myself so I don't burn out from the changes this will demand of me.

Day 1 Mission 1: Evaluate Yourself

1. People perceive me as being quiet. I have been told by others before that I am one of the quietest people they have ever met. It seems to have varying effects. Some people have interpreted it as being mean and therefore have developed a perseption of me before getting to know me a little more as being an asshole. Others find it pleasent in that I am not needing to be the center of attention. Some women if they are outgoing enough like to chase me because they find me mysterious. They do this though because women do find me physicaly attractive. I am well groomed, in shape, and wear cloths that fit. I have been told I look like I could be an actor and have compared me to a number of well known actors. I am also slow in opening up and that has made some women uncomfortable. Beyond that I am also able to get along with most personalities.
2. I would like people in general to find me to be a respectable person. Well adjusted could be another way to describe that statement. I am not interested in living up to everyone elses expectations but that doesn't mean that I don't care about others. It means that I want to live my life for myself but I will give to others depending upon your relationship with me. For example I don't care what my parents want me to do with my life(if they did anymore) but I do care about them and will work to keep a good relationship with them. When it comes to women I want them to see me as I am. If they don't like it thats fine by me because what I want with women are relationships that are mutual in our feelings for eachother. I just want to learn who to best present this to others.
3. Three behaviors or characteristics I would like to change are speaking quietly, not being aggresive enough in letting women know I am attracted to them, and shying away from social settings.
4. Three behaviors or characteristics I would like to adopt are the opposite of what I listed above.

Hey man..going to follow your thread..I started the challenge too..I'm like at day 6..my wing gave up on me so I'm searching for someone new. In uncomfortable situations, don't give up! Uncomfortable = growth..be prepared and good luck in field!

_________________
Greatness is never borned

Day 1 Mission 2 Read and Destroy
This mission was simply reading an article called "The Chains that Bind". It is about the fact that growing up we have likely developed unrealistic perceptions of reality regardin women. These then form into limiting beleifs about ourselves and the world around us which prevent us from ever enjoying time with women. It then goes on to list some of the most common limiting beliefs and counter arguments for them that are meant to bring us back to reality. This is something I believe everyone in life deals with. Not just in the form of dating, but any and every aspect of life has people who have a difficult time grasping something. I believe then it is always helpful to look at people who have been successful in that area of life and study them. Right now, for me, that is getting my relationships with women squared away.

Day 1 Mission 3: Operation Small Talk

I Set out to accomplish this through out the day when I was running errands and the such. I talked about the weather with all the people I ran into considering the new year is upon us and there is no snow where I live which is weird since I live in Minnesota. I talked to two different people at a gas station, two people when I was at the gym, and one at the grocery store. I find it easier to talk to people when I am not off in my own head thinking. It seemed to help when I was busy with my own things that have nothing to do with pick up to just talk to people around me instead of going out of my way to find people to talk to for that reason alone.

Day 2 Mission 1: Set Your Goals

On this mission I have done it a little differently than layed out in the book but have worked hard on it anyway. This mission was all about setting goals for the future. I was unsure of my career path and until recently I didn't know what I was going to do. Now that I know I have a whole page listed with all the steps necessary to have the career of my dreams. The big things I want out of my life in the long haul are my health, so I eat healthy and work out, solid relationships, primarily my family and in the future that includes a high quality woman for my wife, and a career that makes enough to support myself, a family, with some money leftover for fun, and is enjoyable. [/i]