So here's my situation guys, I've been seeing a coworker of mine and it's been working out great. The second time we went out I managed to f-close and the third time I got some of the best action I've gotten in a while...hah. Who would of thought the innocent ones are the craziest ones!

anyhow, it looked all good and what not untill I found out that she use to be engaged with her LTR ex of 4 years.. and they still see each other. Now from the looks of it, he still does favors for her like taking her to the airport when she's out of time and what not, but I have no idea to what extend those "favors" go to..

I realize this is just some girl that I'am gaming but it does bother me. Perhaps this is my ego coming out but I'am seeking advice on how to progress. She has told me that she has absolutely no intention in getting back with him (apparently he treated her bad/major douche bag etc) but why still keep the constant contact?


Is this just some mine to avoid? Or keep pushing my luck? I'am I breaking the number one rule of PUA (pressumably, I'am rather new to the community) which would be catchign feelings?

any advice guys?

and thankss, it is much appreciated.

You want a relationship with her?

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You gotta make decisions about what you want, man.

Does this bother you enough that you are willing to lose her over it?
Then be direct. Say it bothers you that she still sees him. If she wants to keep seeing you, she can't keep seeing him.

You can't go halfway. Either say that, or say nothing. A man confident in his own sexual abilities and attractiveness doesn't feel threatened by other men. He knows he won't lose his girl, or if he does, he can get another.

hey sorry guys, I've been at work all day.

@Fuze, I've been thinking about it quite a bit lately and I believe I do.. I don't have anything to loose. I've been doing this hit and run thing for a while now and it does tiring.

Thanks for the advice guys. Looks like being direct is the only way out of this one. right?

Just because her ex is still a part of her life doesn't mean she's getting anything more than friendship from him. A lot of people have difficulty understanding this unless, of course, they have a similar experience.

My ex and I were together for 6 years. We've been friends the past 4, in fact I consider her among my closest friends and at times is my rock.

Give her the benefit of the doubt. Hey, guess what? She was with dude 4 years ago, she's with you now! Her having him in her life doesn't mean she's hanging onto hope - their mutual attraction may be completely gone and they've simply realized they work better as friends. She's trusting enough to tell you she remains in contact with her ex (some people realize that this can be a deal-breaker for some), therefore reward her for doing so. You can preoccupy yourself with all these self-inflicted doubts, or you can collect yourself and be calm and cool about it; the first will likely drive the girl away, while the second option will demonstrate that you're not like most other guys who'd likely freakout. If you want to continue your relationship with her, you now know what to do.

wise words and thank you. Sadly, I cannot relate to this sorta situation so I do appreciate the different point of view. It would certainly be the better (more mature) thing to do to just be cool about it.


ill try to be that other guy! This chick looks like she's worth it

Fuck what she tells you, man. Her ex is just a provider, you're the goddamn lover, you're the guy fucking her silly. And from the looks of your post, you mentioned getting some of the best action in a while. That to me sounds like you haven't been dealing with much volume of girls. What you need to do is not let this girl stir up your need for love too much, just keep her as a loving girlfriend out of many other girlfriends who likes to fuck. Always have your eye on other girls man, always. There's always a better chick out there than her. I suggest you literally go out and aim for the highest target you can, really go for the high end leads.

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