Need some advice here. This girl I know from school heard I'm going to Thailand next year and she wants to go with me. I find this weird as we've had some flirting but never even kissed or anything, usually she winds up going home with some other guy if we're at the same party. I mean we're not close friends and never hang out alone, still at this trip we will be sharing the same room for 2 weeks. I'm kinda confused what this means and how should I behave on the trip, should I just assume we are going as friends? Also I kinda like her so this could be my chance to do something but it could also be my chance to mess it up. Would you take this as an IOI?

Fact is this is a massive attraction maker if you do something like this.Invite her for a coffee with the detailed planing and so on. What she expects out of it and what you can offer her. There you can find out about her motives and what she thinks about the trip. Look for IOIs and other stuff like this. Then you can tell why she wants to join you. If shes into you and you like her escalate and do all the stuff thats been written all around here. If you date her here and it works out nice take her with you.

We talked about booking the trip together when she gets back from the holidays so I guess that would be the coffee. I have no idea how I should ask her what she expects from the trip, I still have major difficulties escalating. Still my mind says there has to be something there, why would she want to come with me otherwise knowing that we'll be alone?

I absolutely would not take sand to the beach and bring a non-girlfriend on a trip with me. Hanging out with a girl who isn't winging for you that you dont know how to pawn or pivot is going to kill your game.

Talking with her over drinks is a good idea, then try to close her, but don't take her on the trip. You need to ask yourself if you are just taking her for a chance to get with her. If the answer is yes, then you are likely going to feel like a fool when you don't get any, and see her giving someone else a BJ on the beach.

Well we've already agreed on the trip, I'm not going to say she can't come. It's not a big deal for me if we go just as friends, I have to see her for 3 more years as she's in my class. If she goes and gives someone a BJ on the beach then fine, there's plenty of girls in Thailand (big reason why it's a popular destination). I haven't been trying to game her but I'm intrigued by this.

I like the coffee idea. Figure out where she's at. Ask questions without sounding like it's an interrogation and do what you can to keep your mouth shut while she's talking so she's forced to explain herself thoroughly.

Just because you agreed to go with her in a conversation, doesn't mean you can't change your mind.

Heffty is right you are not obligated.

I have the strong suspicion you are going to be sorry you traveled with her, as always if I'm wrong, let me know.

Detox is right you shouldn't take her what happens if you try to go for it then she rejects you that's going to be a long sour trip. How to plan to bring other women back to the room if she's in the room. You seriously think she's going help you get laid. You didn't think this through at all you just ruined your trip.


If she doesn't let you smash before this trip I'd leave her home it's not too late.

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Well I went ahead and booked the trip anyway. Might be a dumb move but I think I have a real shot at this, wanna see how it goes. The trip is the main thing for me anyway, it's not the end of the world if I can't bring any chicks to the room. I should mention that the place we're going lies outside of phuket and is pretty secluded with our own private beach (there aren't even any bars there). We will be by ourselves mostly. She's been super excited to go there and she has hinted several times that she doesn't want me to bring any chicks back to the room. I take that as a good thing because I don't think she knows I'm interested in her as I haven't exactly been chasing her. Also she has asked about me quite often from our mutual friend. Mixed signals perhaps but maybe I just haven't been clear about my feelings towards her.

I know it will still be a great trip as she's a fun person, and I'm not head over heels for her so I can live with it if it doesn't work out. I hadn't planned on going full out and trying to seduce her right away anyway, thought I feel the water a bit first. But you're bound to bond if you're sleeping in a double bed for 2 weeks and doing stuff together in a very romantic setting.

NOOOO!!

You said it yourself "I just haven't been clear about my feelings towards her."
That's it! She's going on this trip with a friend!

What you need(ed) to do was have a make or break moment. Ask her out, make a move. If she reciprocates, AWESOME! You're going on this trip with a hot date. If she doesn't, cool! You get to game freely without a built-in cockblock.

But now she's stuck to you, there is no freedom to make a move regardless of consequences.

Well it's too late for it now. I'm not gonna worry about, I'm not going there to get laid but to have a nice vacation. I'd still rather have a friend along than spend the 2 weeks alone there with the chance to bang some random chicks.

you would actually have more fun and opportunity for success traveling alone as well as grow more as a person. I traveled to 30 counties alone in my twenty's and that always worked out very well for having fun, hooking up, and growing as a person.

The few times ive had a travel buddy it almost always inhibited the trip and lead to more stress.

Good luck

Bring them anyway and initiate a 3-way.