ok.. here's the thing, I usually meet girls, or some friend introduces me to some of his friends, I am charismatic, I have a good bodylanguage, but I can't find conversation threads, I don't know what to talk about, and have a nice conversation.

And please don't give me advices about some routines ( so how do you know each other) , I want to be natural, I like comunicating and talking with people, but I really don't have any ideea about what! How will I master this?!

It's something you'll learn to adapt to. To start with, you can ask about generic shit and it will inevitably lead to a deeper conversation. Start by talking about where she goes to school/work, where she's from, what the weather has been like, etc. Just don't turn it into an interview. Make sure the conversation flows naturally.

Yeah i'm having the same problem right now, but I'm trying to solve it like Snarg says, asking some questions like where she's from etc, but I'm trying to 'scan' (watch what they're wearing&shit) for some situational openers, thats helping me a lot to.

But its just like Snarg has said it, its something what you'll learn after having some practice.

Megamind holding a good conversation requires some practice. For something to become natural to you have to do it lots of times. Like brushing your teeth and many other things where you don't even think. For your conversations to become natural you have to have lots of long conversations. Now, how do you accomplish this. Very simple. When your interested in something like a video game what do you do? You go online check out the reviews watch the trailer etc.. Why? Because your interested in the game. You might even be online for hours and talk to your friends for a long time discussing the game. If you genuinely become interested in the girl your talking to your conversation will continue until you find out everything about her, which I am sure is plenty. And if you're are genuinely interested in a girl she will automatically be interested in you because of the following formula (HOW YOU FEEL)=(HOW SHE FEELS) it's very simple. Good luck!

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Well, it's like these guys said, good conversation comes from asking simple questions, listening to the answers, and picking out the pieces that interest you.

Now, there are some shortcuts. Develop interests or hobbies in some of these areas and I guarantee that they will serve you well in conversation: Athletics, music, art, pop culture, and current events. These can be things you learn, or things you create or do yourself, either will make for a great talk if you are genuinely interested in them. Almost every person has an interest in some part of these topics, and each one has unifying themes through its sub-categories.

Also, you'll start to notice trends in conversation. When I talk to latina girls, I can always talk about their heritage, and the misconceptions and sensitivities of all people who are mistakenly labeled Mexican. This is a racial subject, I happen to have a good sense for racial issues, and I can navigate them well, but be a little cautious. You don't want to offend with your jokes. Still, latina girls LOVE to have that conversation. Other trends apply and you'll find them as you talk to more people.

Thank you snarg, I know.. I will adapt in time, and I am practicing everyday, I even see some improvements, but let me show you some situations that I get stucked

1. when I am interested about the girl.. I'm asking , where you from, what do you do, what are your dreams, and she gives me short answers followed by nothing, and I don't want to start over with other questions to seem like an interview? How should I manage the conversation here? I also don't want to get in that silent moment!

2.I read a book about making relationships with people and beeing very social, and there where some topics with I could open a discution : How is an usual day of your life? , if you could live anywhere in this world, wich town would you chose? , tell me something about your job ... and so on.. the thing is that when I ask those kind of questions, they seem to me that tho other person should give me some personal information, and she won't be confortable to do it! ( i'm talking about the first minutes of conversations) and it's harder in a grup, I have alot of these bad moments, when I go with a friend on a table, and he presents me 3 of her friends, and I end up staying at the table and saying nothing! I hate those momentes! How should I manage this situation? how should I conquer the table with different and interesting conversation topics?

+1..

You can't try to use these questions because you're scared of being at a table with nothing to say? That's the whole reason you should use these questions! And you'll only be able to make them work if you try using them a few times, not just once and give up on it.

You're nervous about a situation you haven't encountered yet. This is a fatal mistake. You CAN'T manage that situation, you've never been in it! After the third time you're in it, and you realize it happened, you'll never be in it again. I can promise that.

You'll notice a pattern, a way to solve the problem, and a unique solution that only you could execute. We can't show this to you, only real life can.