i also have been on other sites as well and it does seem like some of the things here are a bit extreme, but also unnecessary?

None of its necessary. Different styles, different opinions, different habits.

This was an eye opener for me too man. And really, it's unfortunate that I didn't realize it sooner. I joined this site quite awhile ago, and I've never stuck around for more than a couple weeks. Why? Because I'd either have success by just figuring it out myself, or I'd read some of the posts here, disagree but try them anyways, and afterwards realize that it was a bunch of b.s.

There are some general tips, yes. But they don't just apply to women, they apply to communicating with people in general, in the everyday world.

Tonight while I was watching "Crazy, Stupid, Love", I saw how smooth Ryan Gosling's character was, and I told myself that I need to be more calm and cool like that. Then I asked myself, "If I act like that and not the more upbeat guy that I truly am, how in the fuck am I gonna find the right girl?". As the movie progressed and he started dating Emma Stone's character, I noticed that he still acted the same. He was still calm, cool and collected. So it wasn't an act, he was that type of guy the entire time but he was just smooth, and had confidence/low amount of fear. He never acted fake at all.

It all comes down to following a select few general tips, while being yourself the whole time, and eventually you'll figure it out.

Props to you 7evenE1even

People come from all walks of life and need an instruction book for the simplest of things to unlock closed doors that men have closed in on them.

At age 28 I recently discovered that I can actually party and smile and dance. Things I understood to be impossible until I really committed to enjoying life. Religion is one of the tools man uses to oppress others. I am a Christian, but view religion as a rule based system that makes you think twice when even looking at a woman and then gets into your thought process and throws things off

So yes you can have confidence and an aura but knowing what to say for people like me who are very disciplined and coached from a particular walk of life, unfortunately think too much for the simple mind of a woman and can't pull off easy things anymore.

Slowly I'm coming out of a shell that has been around me my whole life. Sites like this give very useful advice when you simply don't know what to do.