| the way you hold your face is fairly irrelivant, if you are seeking approval you will naturally sub-communicate this, if you are not you will naturally not sub-communicate this, trying to hold a stoic poker face 24/7 would just make you seem like you are a serious stoic person 24/7, chances are, you are just playing it safe, you get girls comfortable with being around you by using humour and socializing with them but you are not flirting, there is no sexuality between you and women, you are not hitting on them, you are not making them feel sexy, there is a push and no pull, you tease and act indifferent and socialize and have fun giving them that safety in being around you, but then when you raise their buying tempurature and have them interested enough you don't escalate things
just understand there is playful and fun, there is serious and listening, and then there is seductive, when you are horny and trying to escalate there is a good chance your energy is low, you are calm and she can tell you want to fuck her, just look the girls you are talking to in the eyes and think dirty dirty thoughts about them, then speak to them, test out how this changes the way you speak, also try when you are being playful and you are not horny just throwing out a few sex jokes or sex stories, accuse her of hitting on you, randomly say things about the two of you having sex, nothing has to be logical or make sense you can just pull random flirting out of your ass just don't make it all serious when you are flirting around, when you are seriously horny and feeling that seductive vibe, let your touching do the flirting and your eye contact communicate that you wanna smash that from behind, what ever you feel will eventually come through in your words and actions not in what you are saying, but in how you are saying it
now as for attraction
looks, financial security, social connections, dominance/security you present, your social skills, the positive emotions she has assosiated with you, the lifestyle you live, the way you dress, your body language, all are relavant to how attractive a girl will find you, but for the most part a girl will know within minutes if she finds you attractive enough to sleep with or not, sometimes you can demonstrate some serious social skills and have her assosiating major emotions to you thus making you her emotional drug, and use that to your advantage (conditioning), but mostly in my opinion it is just how you look, and how confidently you present yourself, and confidence goes really deep and relates to social skills and is a huge part of it, it will just be sub-communicated in everything you do and is really hard to fake being confident and secure, you either are or you are not, but don't worry, you can improve yourself and learn/train yourself to become a more confident person
if you are not sure of yourself in a situation then you are unconfident, if you are sure of yourself in a situation then you are confident, and what is going on in your head is really important your ability to focus on the situation and just be sure of what you want rather then looking to others for what they want will shine through in your words and actions, you can just tell, unconfident people have low (volume) voices they are shy and nervous, they ask what you want, they ask what you want to do, they randomly try to kiss ass in the hopes you will like them, they are just not sure of themselves at all, they figit around because they are uncomfortable in situations that they are not sure of, but put that same person in some sort of situation where they are sure of themselves and that whole dynamic and sub-communication will change, for example you have a guy who is sexually unconfident (the kind of confidence most men strive for on this forum), but he is really confident in his ability to play guitar and has a really wide knowlege of metal bands, when he discusses guitar and metal bands he will speak clearly about it, when someone throws a metal band knowledge curve ball at him it won't get an emotional reaction out of him because he is already sure of his knowlege, he will just brush it off and possibly try to challenge that persons view to possibly gain a new perspective or just lose interest in what that person is saying, when he plays the guitar it sounds great and he doesn't hesitate because he is sure of what he is playing, now lets look at the sexually unconfident person, it's game time your at the club, your unconfident, you walk up quiet voice, not sure of what to say or do, what does she want, not what do you want, she feels this intantly just by your body language and voice tone as well as the words you are saying, gets semi-creeped out, you are less attractive as a result after opening your mouth, she can tell you are figity and irradic, hesitant to show interest, what will she think, you are not sure if she likes you or not, you want to have sex with her but you hide it, because what if she doesn't want that, you are not sure of yourself, turns girls the fuck off
they want to pretend they are pure and have a guy be sure of himself and escalate, they give up a bit of resistance and throw some curve balls to test your confidence, but you are just sure they are into you so you just stay persistant because you know they are into you (without a need to get anything from them), they still feel pure and know they got a good catch and you get laid, just be good looking enough and confidence is almost all the matters in my opinion, (but you still have to pass that physical line of fuckable, you don't have to be brad pitt, but you can't be that 2000lb guy from the discovery channel, but even if you were there would still be girls out there into that so if you are don't fret just get out there)
instead of going for one girl at a time, and worrying about fucking it up and not being sure of yourself, go for all the girls that interest you, all the time, and just be sure of yourself, eventually you will get into some sexual relationships and you can descide after sex with a girl, do I keep seing her and stop going out, or do I just keep getting new ones?, if you want hot girls, just approach hot girls, it is that simple, they are just people, you are as attractive as you are attractive, the only difference between a hot girl and girl who is deemed physically unattractive is usually self esteem, confidence, and amount of options, that is about all the seperates the two, pickup no matter how good looking you are, no matter how confident, how famous, how rich, will always be a numbers game, girls are finnicky and picky about who they sleep with, don't sweat it, just talk to more girls, some will say yes, some will say no, some can't descide and want to waste time
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