Well I just blew that bridge the f@ck up. I ignored her for about 4 days and she texts me tonight. Things are getting flirty and getting somewhat sexual. I immediately try and pull the " No I don't think we should talk about things like that being that you are waiting for marriage " card ..\I laid my foot down and told her that I was sick and tired of her leading me on if she doesn't plan on going all the way. She goes on and on about her faith and that sort of **** so I went for the big guns..

I told her that I got her voicemail and I could hear her flirting with another guy from two weeks ago. I then told her that I have known her for about a month and every time I want to hang with her she always says she is " busy " and I point out the fact that she made time to flirt with another dude at 3am. Immediately she tries to turn the tables and make me out to be the bad guy saying that I should have mentioned this sooner. ( I didn't want to mention it and was planning on just letting it go but I couldn't let her go on her " I love Jesus " rants without calling her out ) She says she has been too busy to see me over the last month but she made time for stuff like this.

I told her to lose my number and that I am tired of putting up with her **** about how she is always busy when I want to hang with her and I was sick of her throwing out sexual remarks then throwing religion in my face when I push the issue with her. What did it for me is hearing her go on and on about how spiritual she was when I have a recording of her being a drunken whore.

At the end of the day my pride is not worth this pussy.

Forget her. How many single hot woman are there in the world?

I think almost all of us here have had a similar encounter at some point in our lives.

I'm in my mid 30s and my "Houston we've got a problem" moment came to me only just this last summer when I involved myself with a 21 year old girl whom I allowed to string me along for several months (she'd intuitively do a lot of push/pull on me to the point where I'd pine for her). The situation was way out of hand only because I allowed it to continue, but boy was it ever hard for me to pull myself out of the situation. A lot of these girls do these things because they can, it reinvigorates them, gives them a sense of power, however they aren't malicious people by nature.

I think the important thing is to always keep true to your values, and to never lose sight that you should never have to sacrifice your self, your morals, beliefs, and values for anyone and should a person ask (implicitly or directly) for you to abandon these things or place them before you, that's your cue to make an exit.

You did the right thing tonight, and although I'm certain it hurts, hold your head high in knowing that you stood up for yourself. Perhaps you will have your weak moments, but those will pass - as much as I don't believe in burning bridges, there are always exceptions to this rule.

No way man that sucks. I had a girl string me along for a month and went I ended it, it hurt. I now have a feeling she's trying to get with my SPAM who is also a good mate of mine. Guess you can't get away from the hoes sometimes.

Did she string you along by saying she didn't want sex until you were fully committed or was it more manipulation games she was playing?

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I don't even need directions from you, but I'm gonna get an erection from you.

she kept telling me how she was going to wait until marriage. But the kicker is that she wasn't a virgin. She was in the navy and she kept dropping these hints about how much she used to get around and how about now she was going to wait until marriage. I was honest with her and told her that no guy is going to wait for a girl that has already gave it up so easily. I told her no man with his balls intact is going to sit there and wait on something that she already gave away.

What did it for me was her always saying she was busy when I tried to make plans with her. She really was busy moving and with the holidays so I said fine. I waited about a month and almost every week I'd try to make plans with her and still the same response " I can't this week I'm busy " During this time she made dinner plans with someone else, went on a weekend trip with her friends ( this is where she drunk called me ) , went for drinks at her friends who lives in the same apartment complex as me by the way, and kept up with all of her church activities.

I felt like I was being played so that's why I told her to lose my number.

If a girl is interested in you, she'll MAKE time for you regardless of how busy she may be.

Met her on POF. We were sexually intimate for about 2 weeks was intense. After she'd indicated we were just friends, "but more". She told me she didn't want to be in a relationship, which was fine but at the same time she had no issue laying in my bed, or on a couch with me spooning me, spending the night (no sex) etc. Oddly enough we only had sex twice in the beginning, and it wasn't anything particularly special. Lots of boundaries were crossed. It's one thing to say you simply want the persons friendship, it's another to engage in intimate acts with somebody who you know wants to be in a relationship with you.

exactly! In her defense she was moving into a new place and works a lot. But at one point she lived in the same apartment complex of me and was in walking distance and could have easily came and hung out. I gave her the benefit of the doubt and assumed she was busy. But I guess busy for her was hanging out with another guy in a hotel room at 3 am.

I tried to be reasonable. If someone really does actually have a hectic life I am patient, but I got the feeling that when she says she didn't have the time what she was really saying was that she didn't want to make the time and that she didn't have the time for me.

Ha. Not even a day after I told her to lose my number and leave me alone she has texted me wanting to talk. Can't fall for it though. I feel like only a sucker would be with this girl.

Got 99 problems but a bitch aint one.

you just earned your first rep, my friend!

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

Generally not a good idea to burn bridges. You made your move, she made hers; now she's acting like the scorned 'bitch'. . . why are you acting like one too? Wouldn't allowing a girl turn you into a girly man make you the biggest sucker of all?

Keep her as a buddy but just as she does with you, there's no reason for you to save up your Saturday nights for her. Go chat up other people and find yourself a girlfriend. Life's too short to rubber band(like a girl, hate a girl, like a girl, hate a girl) with one ditzy girl.