Hi All
Just joined up, and i need some advice
I met a girl about a year ago now in December at a party. For about 3 months we talked/texted literally everyday, we had so much in common and loved talking to each other. She even once went abroad on holiday during this period, and used the only computer in her hotel to send me messages on facebook, just so we could talk, things like that etc.
After 3 months in Feb, we ended up going out with each other. Things were going well, but then after another 3 months, in April we ended up splitting. I think it was because it was her first relationship, and she just couldnt handle it, too much. We literally got to the point where she no longer wanted to speak to me. She is so stubbern, once she makes her mind up thats it its final. When we split i even told her i loved her, and by then it was too late (first time said it to her)
We left it about a month, and i saw her again at another party. She came up to me, gave me a hug and said she was sorry. Which i was suprised as she said she basically hated me previously. So we started texting and talking again. When i was out with her i saw her texting someone i new who was a complete c*nt, such a bad person, so i confronted her about it, and again we stopped talking and she no longer wanted to talk to me..
A couple of months went by, this time now in end of July, and she sent me a message on facebook, asking me to remove her from a group on there. So again we started talking, asking how each others holidays were etc. but netherless talking, after all the shit that had happened
We carried on talking getting along alright, until the texts i were sending her, she wernt seein the funny side to them and she was gettin all aggy with me. I sent her a long long long text message basically sayin sorry, and again she went off on one. So guess again what happened? She said she hated me, was threating to get her brother to beat me up, and was calling me a stalker. All my friends know what i am like and im nothing like what she was describing me as. We stopped talking, this was around August
Come November, i sent her a message on facebook sayin sorry (dont ask why, i really dont no why i bothered), and she started talking to me again! i had just bought a new car so she was sayin how she liked it when she saw it, asking about my family etc. all the old stuff we talked about really wen we first met back in December
Come Christmas just gone we messaged each other sayin merry christmas and i saw her out at a club as well, so we hugged goodbye. We were talking on facebook and i tried to hint after her number, basically saying, 'oh i would text you to say happy new year but i no longer have your number', and her reply was because that she had a new one, but she didnt give it to me
Overall what do people think? I know that its my life and that people cant decide for me, but i need some sort of encouragement on what i should do. I think deep down theres still part of me that does love her, she honestly is one of the nicest people ive ever met, despite all the shit shes said, but i think thats just down to me f*cking it up and pushin her too far. If she gave me another chance i wouldnt f*ck it up because ive learnt from my mistakes. Also at the same time even though shes said she doesnt want to speak to me, she has come back everytime, and carried on speaking
Do i wait until the new year and see if she messages me on facebook, and carries on talking to me? Or do i just f*ck her off and move on. Start becoming the alpha male and PUA, find better and maybe one day it will make her jealous enough for her to start speaking to me?
Any opinions would be grateful, in a way i feel i need to man up, and sort myself out
Thanks
Joe
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