If a girl you have been seeing/sleeping with for over 3 months start to go cold and you have a feeling she is liking someone else can you get her back?

I'm having some trouble but this girl is very hot and cold. On xmas she was so keen saying she cant wait to see me etc. But now I haven't heard from her and there was something a few weeks ago that made me think she was into someone else?

Sam

I went through exactly the same problem with my ex-girlfriend, who by the way right now is very clingy to me (it was never like that before).

First, you need to understand that women are very complex and sometimes seems f'd up in the head. She COULD like someone else, or maybe going through some very bad things with her family right now. Don't immediately jump to the conclusion that she's into someone else, because it may just be that she's not totally into you at this moment.

You CAN change the situation. I will tell you the most important thing right now is DO NOT start being clingy to her and getting upset IN FRONT of her because of the way she is acting. This will send a definite signal to her that your not strong and would annoy her a lot. So really you need to right through this rough patch, maybe ask her whats going on and say that you've noticed a difference. Ask if family is okay, but the main thing is whatever you do NEVER ACT WEAK TOWARDS HER!!!!!

That's my main piece of advice, I went through the same shit, so play it strong, ask her whats wrong and follow advice that you will get from more replies. Good luck!

Agree 100% with the above poster. But I would like to add that keeping all interactions between the two of you as fun and care free as possible will also help. Women love to have fun, flirt and laugh. If you can spike her emotions positively by being this kind of guy her feelings will come back, push pull is very effective. Pull (finding commonalities, meaningful conversations, flirting, confidence) Push (Disagree with her, tease her in a fun way, playful hitting and swating etc).

Cheers guys

It feels a bit more complex than this.

Its been up and down for a couple weeks now. At first she said she didnt want a relationship right now, due to her coming out of a 5 year relationship in May and then meeting me, so things moved pretty fast and its clearly scared her.

So i gave her her space and sure enough she came back saying she missed me, wants to see me etc. Which was cool and I went a long with it.

Something that HAS grown to frustrate me is her constant inconsistency. She might reply to a couple texts then I get nothing. She wont answer my calls but will ring me and a few times we arranged to meet and she would bail.

Just before xmas I lost my phone for 5 days so couldnt contact her as I had deleted her FB a week back after seeing some guy posting on her wall with "XXXXXXXXXXX" now I dont know about you, but I don't think friends just post that onto each others walls?? Anyway so I couldnt contact her but when I got my phone back there were messages from her asking to meet etc.

There wasnt enough time before xmas so I sent her her present I bought her ages ago and also got some flowers sent to her door.

She responded amazingly to the flowers and to the gift, saying she planned to drive down and see me and things seemed like they were gonna sort themselves out,

Then on boxing day i text her and my reply is "Shopping x" And I havent heard from her since??

I sent her a text yesterday saying we need to meet is tomorrow or friday good for you but nothing. I dont want to call her because it might seem like overkill.

I just don't know what to think right now.

oo yea dude... You were a rebound, she isn't going to take you serious. The chances are shes back talking to her ex of 5 years again. I don't know if you've been in a 5 year relationship before but those things don't just go away easy. Whenever a girl tells me shes fresh out of a long relationship, i get my sex and hit the bricks. Be careful with your feelings, you don't wanna get hurt over some confused broad.

She has you in the position right now where she is in COMPLETE CONTROL. If she texts you something sweet right now, you'll bite. If she says she wants to come see you right now, you drop everything your doing and try to see her. She has you waiting on her next text and/or next move. Catch you oneitis before it gets to far. If you can drop her cold turkey then do it, but if you can't, at least find 1 or 2 more girls to throw in the mix.


I've been here in the past..

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Jesus christ man get a backbone and call her out on her second class behavior. Its either gonna work cause you take the lead or its gonna fizzle. Who gives a dime whether she has been in a ltr or not. You have to decide for you whether this is where you want to be. If it was a 5 year relationship a month apart is red flags but 7 months apart means game on. This chick gets cold cause you are no challenge so go out with someone else and throw this shit back in her face.

Anytime im with someone for 3 months and things are not working I don't fret I just talk to them about all/any issues and take it from there. Get back in charge man and be ready to walk away.