| it is pretty simple, what you actually feel, and what you actually want, will always be subcommunicated through your words and actions, girls communicate in sub-communication, it is not so much what you say and do, more how you do them and who you are, you can think of ways to try to fake that you are not needy, that you have abundance, that you are cool and confident and believe in yourself, or... you can actually not care and not need anything, actually know that you can just go talk to other girls and do so, and actually believe that you are cool and confident and believe in yourself, no matter what, how you are actually feeling will be sub-communicated, this is the whole idea on fake it till you make it, you are given an outline of specific behavior to emulate and practise until you get to the point that you truly believe you are those behaviors and hence you sub-communicate congruence with the frame you are presenting, no matter how many times you freeze out and ignore out of bitterness to hide your needy thought patterns, everytime you come back, she will know you are needy by what you are sub-communicating, same way she could call you every day, you could answer and talk to her for hours and actually not need her or be needy, and the contact everyday would not be needy at all
in relation to your question, being needy is a dlv, the only reason you would ignore her is if she doesn't interest you at the time and you want to shift your attention to something that does
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