This has probably already been convered plenty of times but what the hell.

Everyone always focuses on what a girl wants in a man and how to develop these qualities and this is a very important part of game. However few people seem to think about what they want from their ideal woman and their own personal standards. So many men end up with the wrong woman, the woman who is not right for them because guys focus on the womans needs instead of their own. Think about what you want from a woman, this will make the qualifying stage more natural because you will be genuinely trying to find out if she is the right girl for you instead of just focusing on making her like you. This also helps kill desperation and can help inner game because you become the selector which is a very powerful mindset.

Me personally I am looking for a girl with curves, a very cute smile, preferably brunette, fun, social, confident, enjoys going to gigs and festivals, holidays, intelligent, good sense of humour, good taste in music, similar interests etc. I am not willing to settle for anything less and this is the attitude you need to develop.

I have to stress that this attitude doesnt work without confidence and strong inner game, you cant be super selective if you are nervous around women and unhappy with yourself.

I only require that they not be fat and not be ugly, yet I still never get anywhere at all! Think yourself lucky you can be so damn picky mate!

Why do you think you get nowhere? The reason im asking is because maybe there is some advice I can give you. Also think for a second about what you said, are you telling me that if a girl isnt fat or ugly but is a horrible person, who is boring, shallow and has absolutely 0 in common with you that you would be happy with her?

The truth is if you did meet this person you could try and convince yourself you are happy but deep down you would know you could do better. Try and become the kind of guy who is worthy of the girl of your dreams. The reason I am so picky is because I truly believe that I have a lot to offer a girl and that any girl that is with me should count herself lucky.

In another thread I posted techniques that I have used to gain more confidence you should definitely check it out.

High value people have high standards? Maybe that's the key for you. Keep your chin up, no one likes someone who doesn't like himself.

As for my ideal girl... physically, she'd be cute, a little on the shorter and smaller side. Probably blonde from past girlfriends but I have a place in my heart for brunettes.

She'd have to dance, even badly. She needs to like music, especially hip-hop. She needs to be somewhat intelligent, preferably a decent writer. She needs to have some fashion sense, but also be willing to let it go and wear sweats. I'm sure there's more, but that's most of it.

I'm glad someone brought this up! Guys this is very important. If you want a girlfriend you will only be happy if you set yourself with what type of girls do you want to hook up with.

Personally, for appearance I really don't have high standards. She should be either smaller than me, or close to my height. Face is very important, especially the eyes and the smile. Other than that my genre is a bit above in weight what most call "ideal". I just like it when there's some fat I can grab, but not too much because that's yucky. For tits I prefer smaller because it won't hang later on, slightly bigger than my palms will just do it. I met very few woman who are better looking with short hair so I prefer long. Colour doesn't matter for me. If she has glasses it better look cool. What's the most important however about the appearance is to be completely natural. No fake tits, no mouth implants, no fake nails. Little make up or coloured nails are fair enough. That really makes her hotter in most cases.

Now for other qualities I have higher expectations... The girl must be cute with a good sense of humour, she must know how to cook. I like stronger personalities who are a challenge and have a will on their own(not just every time "okay sweetheart... it's fine as you want darling..." blah), but I hate the really bitchy drama queens. And the most important thing above all else is INTELLIGENCE. Dumb, illiterate, and mentally challenged (in any ways...psychological, hereditary, embryogenic... whatever) women, back off. For taste she better have similar interests to mine or not mind that we are somewhat different.

For the bedroom she must be good in sex, must be clean and on the pill(hate condom). She should have similar sexual taste so we can enjoy it totally. This includes oral but not anal. She shouldn't mind when I come over her (actually... there really are women who don't like that. prude or just too shy for sex...I don't care...I would leave out her hair because that's a bitch to clean off but come on... on her tits, it's just a tissue or two) I'm kind of open to any kinds of fetishes except for: sado-maso stuff, shit, vomit, and any other crazy shit.

As you can see I have very specific desires for a potential girlfriend. This kind of specificity is something you should be aiming for. If you know that the girl you're dating completely matches your desires it not only gives you huge confidence, but it will make your relationship last longer and be much happier.

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One more thing, think about the kind of places you are going to meet these women. For example I stay away from R&B and Hip Hop clubs because I know I am not going to find the girl I like there. I prefer to go to Indie Nights, live gigs, trendy bars,, student parties etc because I know I am way more likely to find a girl like that in one of those places.

Also dont rule out online dating, knowing a girls interests and desires before messaging her you actually have a better chance of finding out if someone meets your requirements before starting a conversation. I have met some very beautiful, intelligent and awesome girls this way.