Just read your thread on being a virgin. Just wondering, which books have you read? Also to help clear some things up for you, ADD doesn't affect your ability to socialize with women. Thats your own personal block that your putting up. Women like the idea of a man keeping a fit body, not so much the fit body it self. What that means is women like the dedication of a man with the fit body. The fit body is the reward of this dedication. When you have sex, women like to be the object of the mans desires; ie. her body/looks. She wants to be glorified for how "hot" she is. The man doesn't, he wants to orgasm, naturally. Also making sure your biology is at its fullest, such as not masturbating too much; you loose sex drive. If you build it up, then you will give into your natural sexual impulses and be more willing to have sex. As for the religious family, that is also another mental block that you have put yourself into. I am very spiritual myself, and being raised by just a mother gave me a huge respect for women. I never had the male influence in my life. When i lost my virginity it felt wrong, and the girls that i slept with after felt wrong. Sex is natural though, and to fight that impulse was wrong of me. I can still respect a women even if i am sleeping with her, its just a different sense. PUA'ing isn't always about having as much sex as you want (certainly can be part of it) but it can also be that push to help you talk to/interact with that one special someone you were too nervous to interact with before. The main thing, in my opinion, is just breaking down your own mental barriers. The IOI's are there for you, you just need to see them and filter them correctly. When i was a virgin i would almost purposefully avoid IOI's and become a little nervous. Not saying thats you but saying that the brain can play some funny tricks on us.
Like alot of the advice says, making sure you identify the IOI's when they arise. Women naturally will repeat body language IOI's because they know men don't perceive body language/vocal tones as well as women. Body Language will always speak louder than words, and understanding the basics to attraction will go a long ways. By the way it sounds, your getting the IOI's. Women are going out of THEIR way to give you compliments, which in the PUA world is pretty much an ax to the forbidden Forrest
You really can't mess that one up on your own, unless you let yourself. You use negative affirmation words with yourself such as "i can't get the job done" change your perspective on yourself and you'll see improvement. It all starts with the self belief in yourself. The worlds top PUA's don't think they are okay, they know they rock! You can develop the same mindset, just believe in yourself.
If you need some books i have some awesome suggestions for you, not only in PUA but also in speech improvement. If you believe thats still a weakness for you.
Regards,
Katonik
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