Hey don i kinda need help on something, so i met this girl maybe 2 months back. it was at a club we madeout and i fingered her and she was just completley all over me that entire night. well i got her number and she told me to text her that same night well i did and i was texting her for a solid 2 weeks and we had quality conversations, i got to admit she liked me and i told i did too. so on halloween her friend was having a party and she invited me, i was unable to go but she was begging me to come even hinting that we would sleep together. well the weird thing is whenever i texted her to hangout sometime she would always say maybe or she didnt know well she told me that same week that she was dating some guy that she didnt even really like so i snapped on her for leading me on basically, then i froze her out. a week and a half ago i drunk texted her and somehow it turned into a convo and ever since then weve been texting. she calls me and texts me alot and she always slips in the occasional baby or sweetie so shes confusing me. whenever i text her to meet up she doesnt reply but whenever i start talking about something else shes super interested in me. im completley confused and i really want to hangout with her but she seems to be testing me or something. is she giving me a shit-test and should i freeze her out, it would make sense to do that because she always texts me and even starts the convo sometimes. plus she had a horrible break up with her boyfriend so maybe that has something to do with it.

Any link to this? Can't seem to find it through google.

Thanks

While I cannot find any glaring errors in your whole text game, I find that the way you handed out the invitation could have been handled in a better fashion.

Firstly, the event was something a bit.. how do I put it.. awkward. Your mother's birthday party and you're inviting a girl, who I assume doesn't know her that well. No one wants to meet the parents so soon. In fact, that's generally one of the last steps. She must have felt very out of place with that whole idea and hence, she just let the conversation drop off on that point.

HB8
lmao
thatd be awkward

I mean I am a bit surprised you didn't pick up on that direct comment about her state.


ME
haha nahhhh
it'd be akward if i didn't have anyone there to hang out with
(this is where you come in)


Really?

You have no one to hang out with at your own Mother's birthday party?

Those are very strange comments you are making there. And she owes you nothing, so telling her that this is the place where she comes in isn't gonna sit well with her. Hence, the log off.

My advice to you is to read up on more pick up related material. You don't seem to have a general idea of how to run an interaction with the girls.

Regards,

Don

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So how do I revive it?

Well, firstly I think that you are doing fine with the whole "freezing out to get perspective" thing. But the deal is that once you get that renewed perspective you lose it again to her natural push-pull behaviour.

So, here's what I am going to suggest here. You take a plan of action, set up a date and tell her that you want to meet her and that you're fed up of the whole texting interaction when she doesn't even have the time or the place to meet you. If she agrees and turns up, well and fine.

If she doesn't, don't waste your time on this girl. Then, she's just another attention seeking girl. Find the next woman who'll value your time and effort more.

Regards and good luck,

Don

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Here, you go ..

http://www.robjudge.net/

This should cover texting as well as more general topic advice.

Regards,

Don

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Well, just had a normal conversation.

Don't bring up the Mum's Birthday topic again.

And plough on as usual. Keep in mind what I said about referring more PU related books though. You seem to need a help on the basic structure on dealing with women.

Regards,

Don

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

To start I just have a few questions.

1) How can you get a girl to want to text you?

2) I recently met a girl on facebook so the question is : how can I ask her number?
And how can I fix a date with her?

3) how can you make it exciting to text?

Thanks !

Girl I met at club.


Me: HB8! It was nice meeting you the other night, hope you didn't pull something when we were getting low hah.

HB8:Hm. I'm guessing I met you Tuesday? I really don remember too much about that night....lol

UPDATE

*a few messages texting bs like are you from around here? etc. goes back and forth for a few texts*

Me: You seem pretty cool, we should meet up for coffee sometime after Xmas!

HB8: Yes I'd love to:)

Me: Haha sounds good, I think I'm free on the 27/28th

HB8: Alright. I'll let you know cause idk what I'm doing yet


*Stopped texting her at that point*

Coach me up!

Don,

Must say, great thread! How can someone have such talent and not ask money for it?

So anyway, in summary:
Known this girl for about 1,5 years, went out with her couple of times in April-august. I got too needy (didn't know anything about pick-up), so we argue and stop all contact.

After two months I've sent her a message on Facebook telling her I didn't like how it all ended, saw my mistakes, haven't changed but did learn and am now moving on. So two weeks later she starts texting me again.

This time I get in the textgame with her after reading all the Dons advice. So the texting goes back and forth nothing spectacular, met for coffee at college, ran into eachother at a party (k-close). So last saturday I this happens (jumping in after ' hey, how are you?' And so on):

Me: so we should meet up so I can get that dvd
Hb: I'm at school Monday and Tuesday
Me: Tuesday is fine! We'll have coffee at *place*

So Monday I texted her if Tuesday was still on. She said yes. Tuesday she flaked.

Me: so what time does your class finish?
Hb (1 hour later): I'm already gone, only had class in the morning!
Me (1 hour later): ok, that's fine!

So like any normal guy I think f*** u, I'll go game ten others! Then tuesdaynight 1.45 she texts me that she got hired at the internship she desperately wanted. Like she didn't know this already earlier or couldn't wait until daytime. So I responded the following night: good job. Proud.

Ran into her in school Thursday, saw her for 10 minutes, kissed her again, and now I am all out of routines and tactics! I need the Don!

How does one proceed from here, I am living one hour away from her so texting and calling are my main weapons!

Thanks a lot!

Here's my situation. Number closed with a girl from class, long story short she owes me a coffee. Last day of class I talk to her about getting that coffee but she's heading back home and gave me her number instead. Saw her at the final exam, texted her after saying saw you as I was leaving, have a meeting with a prof but I've got some free time after to collect on our bet. She told me she's sorry she can't as it was her last exam and she's heading back home after the exam.

I'm not sure if she's avoiding me but she did give me her number so I hope that's more out of interest than pity. Anyways, how do I make the next move? I told her I'd give her a shout next semester when she's back (this was on the last day of class before I texted her at the finals). However, I don't want to seem to needy and I feel like if I initiate communication again it's just me chasing her.

I was thinking of sending a mass Merry Christmas text tomorrow and including her and seeing if she replies or just waiting until next semester to ask her for that coffee. Thoughts?

Met HB out at the bar, # close.

Text her the next day for a short convo about the previous night.

Text her a few days later telling her I am going to X for a drink and she should join me. She agrees. We meet and have a couple drinks, nice convo, light kino and she goes in for a hug close.

I text her a few days later and say:

Me: "I am gonna chill tonight and watch a xmas movie, join me!"
HB: "Oh sorry, I have plans. Merry Christmas!"
Me: "Fair enough. Hope santa brings you lots, if you weren't too naughty "

Should I ask her to do something again after a week or so? I don't like that she didn't say "I have plans but what about X day". Thoughts? Thanks!

met some girl at a bar. Got her number very short convo.
Texted her 2 days later. "Merry christmas"
Her "Merry christmas to you 2, i love you."
Me " Whoa love me huh? your a little clingy i might have to end this relationship."
Her " Fine be that way lol"
Me " Wow clingy and psychotic, I want you more than ever now"

And from then on dead silence. I guess i displayed too much interest without really getting to know her yet right.

what are you asking for? advice on where you went wrong? what you could say next?

Your response to i love you was c/f but you ended it just a step too soon and it seemed like she reacted badly to you opening your heart out to her. you took away all of the big talk about you not liking clingy girls by saying that.

also i don't see how "fine be that way" is anyway psychotic

you should pay more attention to what she is saying that coming up with a cocky reply, it really hurt your game here.

there is no exact reason for the radio silence since i do not know the girl myself and the way she is based on 2 texts she sent you of low value.

she could of been shy about seeing you like her and not replied.
she could of been scared by how you liked her more for not doing anything, like your trying to look for reasons to say how more interested you are becoming, (but dont be the fool who shows this in your texts so directly )

in conclusion what you said kinda counter-acted the "I don't like clingy girls" statement you told her.

I just wanted to reply im not replacing don's advice in anyway im just stating my opinion

I'll join the queue... guess a lot of people need help around this time of year haha.

I've come to the conclusion I really don't know how to react to IOI's without seeming too keen.

ME: "London plans have failed, can't get a hotel so will probably be going *place* now."
HB9: "Ah nice! Might see you at *place* then... Exciting "

This is about nye plans... but what would be the best way to reply to a suggestive remark like this.

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