Yo dudes.

Not all is speed seduction. Getting to that one girl sometimes takes a while. I have been there, done it and i fell in this pitfall: impatience

perhaps a couple of short stories:

A couple of years ago, i met this girl. I was doing pick up several months then. It clicked, i got her number, and i told her that we should meet again sometimes. the next day, in the morning, i send her a text, to meet again in two days. She wasnt av ailable, so i send back that we could go the day after that. She had a party then. So i send back: how about two days after the party as i was unavailable the next evening.
We never met again, as she ignored me.

Also some time ago, i met another girl at work. We talked and i told her: send me an email some time so we can go for a drink. So i waited until the afternoon, but i got no mail. So i checked around for her work email and i send a message myself. I got back: wow you really are quite into this, right? Although in my mind i thought i did well, it was the end of the seduction right there.

I dont have to point out what i did wrong. When you do your thing, have confidence that you did it right. So be patient and let her come. If she does initiate contact back, you did right and are still doing good. If she doesnt come back, you really didnt make that great impression or she just isnt interested. Again, be patient, there is plenty of time to make her interested.

If there is interest from her side, but resistance to go all the way, be patient. Time is on your side. Get in her mind, get sex in her mind, slowly, like a poison. Dont brute force resistance, crumble it.

Time is always on your side, as all things change. What might seems like the perfect relationship, by which you think: i really lost this girl, take a good look a few months later, or a year later. There are cracks in those lovely foundations, large enough to pour your poison in.

Cheers

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"Stop being a fucking vagina and escalate" - CaptainJackHarkness

Like the naked leads the blind.
I know I'm selfish, I'm unkind.
Sucker love I always find,
Someone to bruise and leave behind.
placebo - every me, every you

I can see impatience as a problem for alot of men out there and even myself when it comes to the topic of sex. I fancy myself patient about alot of things. Sex, no. I have slowed it down from very fast to less fast. But there is room for improvement here on my part. If I slow down the sexy texts and e mails and all that forceful bombarding of sex sex sex. Wile still thinking sexy well then all will be right in my world. I do it from time to time. But I am still to achieve full potential. Good post.

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good article!

I find that most girls who are interested still won't contact you first. You still have to make the first move and calibrate between being patient and persistent, which is not so easy to do, and that's when your story makes sense.

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@ Cha: thanks
@ Defy: also thanks. You make a good point. i hadnt thought of it because simply, it just doesnt happen that much that she doesnt come back. I have grown in my impatience in that sence that i just continue doing what i am doing.

But now you mention it, in my case it is also more dependant on the interaction. If the interaction was a bit cold, i might be the first one to initiate contact again, but in a why that i looks accidental (if that makes sense). I will never be the first one to initiate contact over email, texting or any other means of multi media. Always a real life encounter and try again.

I also always approach, so i think on a subconcious level, women already know my plans. That makes the decision for a warm or cold interaction.

On a warm interaction, i usual feel like she is trying as well. I dont contact her, so she tries again. In that way, i think i give her the idea that she is seducing me.

Good point actually.

cheers!

_________________
"Stop being a fucking vagina and escalate" - CaptainJackHarkness

Like the naked leads the blind.
I know I'm selfish, I'm unkind.
Sucker love I always find,
Someone to bruise and leave behind.
placebo - every me, every you