Hi guys, i need your help with some tips and tricks. I will be quick in my story.
I am 24, i have a crush on my work colleague, let's call her Lara. She is 31, divorced and has a small kid. I don't have any problems about her situation. I'm trying to convince her to go out to drink something. She kindda likes me, telling me sometimes that i look good or that she likes my hairstyle and stuff. Another girl colleague asked her about me, and Lara said that she likes me and has a lot of fun with me when we work together (unfortunatly i work mostly in night shifts from 11pm to 7 am, and she works from 8am to 4pm, and i can't see her often) but she thinks that i'm a little young for her.

I asked her for a few times to go out. She never said no explicitly, but she always had stuff to do (or just pretended so) and we never met out until now. She was telling me that her life is a mess and she barely has free time (said something like working in 2 places - for a single mom trying to raise a kid, i might think she says the truth).

This week i had an exame, i passed it and texted her "hi, you've holded your fingers crossed for me? because i passed the exame". she replyed "congrats, i'm very happy for you. kiss you". after that i replyed back "Thanks, we should celebrate it. Tell me where and when:). Kiss" but she didn't answered.

What can i do in this situation? We don't see very often, because of our different working shifts, but sometimes when i'm working in day shifts and I see her, we oftenly drink the coffee together, talk, she smiles at me and acts kind of sweet with me.

I might be in the friendzone, but i'm sure i can get out of that crepuscular area and go out for a date with her at least once. that's all i need to get from her:)

Good question. My gut is to give it time. If you want to go out with her then you need to plan that it will take at least a few weeks.

Text her every four or five days - don't ask her out, just build comfort. Use your texting to practice push/pull.

After a while say something romantic like, "I was just thinking that you work all the time and you have a kid, is there anything I can do to make your life easier?" And then do whatever she says.

Remember, you want things to seem natural. In the meantime talk to other girls.

After a few weeks of this she should say yes to your requests, if not you should have other girls to talk to.

Of course always make it noncommittal when you text her to hang out so it would be like, "I have tomorrow night open...do you want to do anything?"

Also it is usually a good idea to text at night, after 11:00.

Good luck.

thx for your quick answer and the good advice.
i asked her several times (5-6 times) to go out in the last 3 months, i guess. she was saying things like "i don't think i can go out now, because i have to do.....". or i sent her a sms and she was answering 1-2 days later saying she is sorry, but was busy or had no time to answer when she received the message.
2 days ago we met at work and asked her about her Christmas holiday plans, and stuff. She was saying that on 27th will be free and i said "ohh, so we might can see on 27, if you'll be at home". unfortunatly i don't remember precisesly what she said. it was something like "yes, if i will be home we might do it". but however she didn't say "no".
i will text her in that day saying "hello, how are you? would you like to go out for a hot choccolate? i know a nice place where we can have one, you will be delighted. kiss". it doesn't sound too pushy and it sounds like i'm suggesting her, not asking

One of the first things that I remember from all that PUA stuff is that YOU as a man should LEAD.

Maybe change " would you like to go out for a hot choccolate? i know a nice place where we can have one, you will be delighted" to something more like:
"I am going to this really nice place for hot chocolate. join me, I am sure you'll be delighted "

you might also be right, but won't she think "with who is he going there? alone? that's so sad... i don't want to go out with a guy with such a sad life" ?. she might also ask me "who will be there?" and i need to find a big good lie, because she is not a teen and is not easy to be fooled. she's a milf