I know a lot of you are gonna say if she's sneaking around with her current bf what's she gonna do to you. I am well aware if that aspect and am totally down to risk it because she is absolutely gorgeous. I'm sure she is gorgeus to everyone but to me she is damn near perfect.

Basically I got get number at a party tried to call a few days later (she was to nervous to answer) we texted set up lunch then I cut her off no doubt I'm in her head right now.

However after I got her number ui learned she has a bf. She has not mentioned this to me and does not know I know.

How should I handle this?

Iv got two other dates with two other girls before the big one and I don't really wanna go on them cause I'm no longer interested in them but decided I may as well to be certain I don't cherish this dream girl to much

lol

one-itis with a possible cheater

good luck!

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Real helpful man thanks for the wisdom

there was more wisdom in my post than you realize.

you're welcome.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

Ignore it, if she doesn't mention him then he doesn't exist. If she mentions him early, she's proactively LJBFing you. If she mentions him later, it can be a regular form shit test. Respond with "cool, I have a girlfriend."

I wouldn't necessarily say a girl is a bad prospect just because she cheats on her boyfriend for you. Because of the grossly lopsided ratio of betas to Alpha, you can't blame the majority of girls for cheating on their boyfriends. I know the norm in the community is to assume a girl is bad LTR material if she left her previous relationship to start a new one with you, but this convention assumes that you and the other boyfriend have the same amount of game.

If her boyfriend is a greater beta with minimal game and wrought with insecurities, and you're an Alpha; can you blame her for leaving him for you? Can you automatically assume that she has a high chance of cheating on you in the future?

This being said, obviously don't approach the situation head strong about making her your girlfriend. You'll be stuck with Oneitis and will probably end up in the same position as her soon-to-be-ex.There's nothing wrong with secks with no strings attached, but for an LTR, screen her appropriately.

And your idea of not seeing those other girls is WAY distorted. This is a classic mistake in dating, a guy focuses all of his energy on a single target because he loses interest in putting in effort elsewhere. Seeing other girls is key to showing someone you're a preselected male with OTHER OPTIONS. Desperation = The bane of pussy. A girl will respect you more for exercising other options until you are exclusive with her. And doing so will urge her to establish exclusivity because she has something to lose if she doesn't.

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Thanks for the well thought out response. I totally agree with you that her cheating on her current bf may be because I'm honestly just a better option. You always want the best right? I'm just going to assume this is the case as I think its the best mindset to have.

As far as oneitis goes I do wanna point out I am seeing other girls right now, but its hard to motivate myself to game with them because they are a lower level. It's kinda like playing madden 10 when you could be playing madden 12. Not as fun right? This girl is also so cute I'm surprised I got her number let alone a date.

She was my first number close after reading up on this pua stuff and I even got 2 other numbers at the same party

I always thought this pua thing saws a bunch of dbags who are way to full of themselves.
Now I see that it basically teaches that you are just as or more valuable than any girl out there and you are the prize, not her. I think its a great message