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PostPosted: Thu Dec 22, 2011 8:31 am 
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Listen to the Advice by fellow poster Kieran Black - they are sound. Would give you a home run on this girl.

If you are dating a busy professional/girl. Its okay for them to not be able to schedule something with you right off the bat. The key is to keep the vibe alive. So next time you call her you could just QUICKLY chat for a bit and then try to pick up clues about her schedule. She would give you clues on when she is free - Trust Me - women give clues all the time.

Stay away from texts - they are only to bridge time and not to convey your life stories.


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PostPosted: Thu Dec 22, 2011 8:41 am 
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If she doesn't contact you for 2 months then i suggest you forget about it. She probably just isn't into you. Don't worry about it. Unrequited feelings are a bitch but, you win some and you lose some. If she does text you after 2 months of silence then blow her off. Fuck her! You have to develop a bit of respect for yourself.
Definitely don't do this. Don't wait 2 months for a damn girl. What is wrong with you Glass? Would you waste 2 months of your time for a girl that is not even a sure goal? Also... do you expect that a social girl like this wouldn't find anyone else in 2 months? That's the most ridicolous idea ever.
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I have been in pick up for about a year now and in that year I consider myself pretty successful, I have been with 12 girls so far this year most who have wanted relationships with me and all of which I have felt werent right for me. I recently went on a date with a girl who I think is absolutely amazing, we really hit it off. Comfort and Connection levels were abnormally high for a first date we have virtually everything in common, she has every quality I have ever looked for in a girl. She was giving off massive IOI's including laughing at all of my jokes, playfully hitting me, smiling at me the whole time, loads of eye contact and we kissed passionately at the end of the date. I was very confident, displayed attractive qualities and just about played the perfect game. However this was five weeks ago and I havent been able to get a second date with her since.

She has an incredibly busy social life and says she does want to see me again but is very busy. I may have come across a little needy with some of the texts I have sent as I let my emotions take over instead of thinking things through. Im not sure how to turn the situation around in my favour, I decided not to text her so that I dont appear desperate, that was a week ago and there has been no contact since. Im pretty sure she isnt seeing someone else. Im sure im going to get a ton of responses saying move on or forget about her but I must stress that this is the first case of oneitis I have had in about five years, I never have strong feelings for any girl I date and my standards for a potential girlfriend are incredibly high.

Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated. I should also add that despite her being incredibly bubbly and social she has some emotional issues, not in a bad way but she went through something incredibly traumatic and heartbreaking sometime ago the kind of thing that a lot of people would never recover from. I dont want to say what it is out of respect for her and am only mentioning it because it is relevant to the situation.
Listen to Kieran's advices. From these and the last few posts I checked from him, he knows what he's doing.

So also...she said she'd call you when she'd have time. I say, if she ever wanted to have time for you she'd have it. This is such a bad excuse, that it shines like the unholy grail of flake. At this moment if called it would be needy, so I also suggest you to just wait. But while you're waiting don't stop going out and searching for girls. You're not in an exclusive relationship as far as I know from the information given and she can't expect you to wait for her for an unsure period of time just because you kissed and she's busy. That's just BS. It's possible that she'll call. Then you just arrange a meeting, go on a date and fuck her. But chances are she'll never call. She may be the only girl who you felt matches your expectations but to believe that she's the only one like that would be too silly.(I know you don't think that but I have to make sure by pointing it out)


Now back to you Gallow. I know you didn't mean that he should just sit and wait for that long but it's not a good idea to put it in a point of view like this. "Oh I'll just go out, not care about her that much and if she doesn't call in 2 months I'll forget about it" It plants the little seed in your mind and you will think about her a lot in the next 2 months, and it can hinder your game terribly. The correct point of view is this :"Fuck that bitch. I'm gonna stop caring about her RIGHT NOW and TOTALLY and if she ever decides to call me then maybe if I'm single I'll give her a chance, but I definitely won't go so easy like last time"

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PostPosted: Thu Dec 22, 2011 11:54 pm 
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Kieran Blacks advice has been very good but I find the whole misogynistic attitudes of some people really fucked up. The whole attitude of "fuck that bitch" is pretty shitty and immature I have never had that attitude with any of the girls ive slept with even the one night stands. Even the girls I have no intention of seeing again I would like to think I have treated with respect.

Anyway now that you have pointed it out I guess that text did come across as long winded and needy which is where I think I have gone wrong. I have undone so much of the great work I put into the first date, I expected to have a second date pretty quickly and when it didnt happen I let my emotions take over and thought with my heart instead of my head.

I never usually act needy because I very very rarely feel needy all though I am willing to admit that in this instance I do feel needy and didnt know how to handle it. The neediness isnt just going to magically go away when you have a bad case of one-itis but the key is to be in control of it and not let it consume me.


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