Ch1mera's test seems like a good way to find a competent personal assistant. To each their own. We all have individual needs/desires.

The most important quality, not only in a potential partner but as a human being in general, I believe is the ability to solve problems without resorting to anger. Hey, anybody can be 'great' when everything is good and they're in a good mood. Hell, most people will even do all the things on Ch1mera's list when they're giddy. How people respond to difficulty is what defines them.

In response to the initial post . . . life's too short to live by rules. You're a pushover for a long while so you hop over to the hard ass side of the fence. Then people think you're an asshole so you hop back over to the pushover side of the fence. Back and forth and back and forth. Just remove the damn fence; F those silly personal contracts. What not, "What do you feel like for dinner?" when you feel like asking her for her opinion? - Wouldn't respect for her opinion be one of the reasons why you're hanging out with her in the first place? And then why not, "Let's go grab Chinese." When you want to eat some Chinese food?

You are single and have never been in a relationship, Have you ? Your 'tests' and mind set would keep you single for a very long time - And I mean this not in a condescending way.

The concept of suggesting and leading has been taken to extremes by people making the whole male female interaction weird! For me it has always been as simple as -

You: Hey wana grab dinner with you Thursday nite, I'm in the mood for some Chinese - Does that sound good?
Her: Okay, Or - Hmm.. My friend was talking about this Italian restaurant (or whatever)
You: Okay, we could do Italian. I just want to spend some quality time with you. I'll pick you up at 8:00pm (or whatever).

You: Hey I wana see you over for Dinner, what are you in mood for?
Her: Chinese
You: I'm good with Chinese. See you at 8pm


There are a lot of reasons for which great compatible people break off. You dont have to be a rigid power hungry dominating asshole and fend off people.

I'm in a relationship right now actually! Before that I was seeing someone casually too. Are you?
If you have ever starting seeing someone, you will know how hard it is to see her qualities in an unbiased light and objectively. This is only meant to help people assess if a girl has certain qualities, which I'm sure you'll agree are all vital for a healthy relationship, during the first phase of a relationship where you have shit loads of hormones keeping you from thinking logically about your object of affection. This test is a little extreme but it will save you a lot of pain in the long run, yes it may be that simple for you right now, but you're either lucky and found a girl who has these qualities or you'll end up destroyed when she cheats on you/dumps you later when you start trusting her, let your guard down and your game slips up a little - instead of wondering if she's trustworthy, why not find out?

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Rep me if I helped!

I think there's a massive difference between caring about people, and caring about what others think about you. If you don't care that someone might not like you for being yourself, then that's a good place to be in because you live how you want to live regardless. But if you think that treating people like crap is a good way to show that you don't care about what others think, then it's not good.

Haha - you just voted me neg 10 because I said you are single and would be for a long time hehe !! Did I hit a nerve there

And who taught you about these tests? Who told you that you that you should text a girl all day and then do all those stupid little baby things to check for respect for you and integrity.

Stop writing these stupid tests that have never been put to use. I'd suggest you be out there and get yourself a real relationship - a few of those will give you a better prospective.