I'm having trouble understanding how to make you make a girl qualify for YOU.

Good example, I've just tried over IM, started talking to a girl:

Girl: Oh hey, I'm at the library what you up to?

Me: Oh no, not the library! I can't be friends with girls that go to the library!

Girl: :O haha why??


And now I'm stuck -.- Is what I said even correct with my goal to make her qualify?

The other problem I have is AMOGs, I simply don't know how to deal with them, I can't game when they're around, and I'm shit scared of getting beat (haha) as I'm a smaller guy (5'5)

Thanks for the feedback guys, loving all the knowledge and wisdom here :p

P.S Back to the previous girl, I've just ignored her question, and stated something along the lines of "I saw your status before, you're doing a paper or something arent you? You're always doing papers"

Yo Barldd,

Cool story.

First of, qualifying is good, when you know what you want. What type of girl you want to have sex with? What type of girl do you want if you are looking for a LTR?

Once you know that, your qualifications are going to be genuine, and you will know the reason why she passes or not passes your qualification. You will not get stuck on superficial qualifications like the one you put out now. Unless you are totally ironical and just messing around. However, i believe you was kinda serious. You need to qualify on deeper values, values important to you, or your qualifications dont have much meaning.

Although i quite like the balsyness you show in your answer, it lacks sincerety, which leads to you not knowing why you dont want to be friends with a library chick.


Get up your honesty or learn to be a better actor .

cheers man, keep up the good work, keep up trying and exploring.

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That sounds like it would be so much simpler, as it wouldn't be fake. Alright , well I dislike chicks that smoke, don't like the smell and I hate passively breathing it. Say I'm talking to a girl and she says she smokes occasionally, after I say "Ohh really? That's too bad, I can't be friends with women that smoke" she'll probably reply with "Why not?" or "See ya!" (if it's See ya, then I don't give a fuck, goodbye) I can answer her with a genuine response, like I dislike smokers cause of the reasons I stated above. Is that how you qualify legit?

hey man,

yes it would be! It would be more legit.

But the strenght of qualifying lies into the fact that you also need to show the way to your hearth, so they have something to work towards.

You can say, she can quit smoking, that is true, but i mean something ....hmm deeper.

Like for example: i like women who are quite erotic and sexual minded (true women), with a bit of adventure. So out of the blue i might say: yeah, you look pretty, but i am not sure if you are kinky and adventurous enough. I like that in a woman. Then you ask for proof, like: oooh really? well what is the most kinky thing you have ever done in your life?

you could follow with: meeh, that is not really that adventurous... listen to this. Then you give your proof

You see, there is more space for interaction.

cheers!

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"Stop being a fucking vagina and escalate" - CaptainJackHarkness

Like the naked leads the blind.
I know I'm selfish, I'm unkind.
Sucker love I always find,
Someone to bruise and leave behind.
placebo - every me, every you

You're looking at the idea of qualifying a girl too superficially.

Think about fundamentals. Why is "qualifying" even an issue that pertains to game? What does it entail?

You qualify yourself to a girl because YOU VALUE HER MORE THAN YOURSELF, this is the heart of the concept. You want to impress her, live up to the standards she has, remain obedient to the feminine sub-culture the promises you a pussy hand-out if you do everything she says.

Why is this mentality self-defeating?

Women are hypergamous, they will never want men who look up to them. They want men that THEY can look up to. So when you're talking to a girl, FORGET about impressing her, FORGET about trying to get with her, be DETACHED to the outcome. You have to approach it with the mentality that if she doesn't like you, it's HER loss. As long as you value her more than yourself, you will always give off a vibe of desperation that will push girls away from you.

The conversation bit you posted wreaks of a try-hard attitude. You're overtly communicating your intent to disqualify a girl mixed w/ a wishy-washy attitude that makes you sound feminine. Tease, but tease naturally. Don't think about it too much. Imagine yourself as a mortal god presiding over female minions, tossing around insouciant negs for your own sick amusement.

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