Add her on Facebook just before Summer 3 weeks after she split up with an ex and have been speaking to her regularly on the phone for hours. Was going to meet her in the summer and she wanted to once but i had to rearrange last min. She then got sick and is on medication (i think she is better now) and hasen't been out since because she couldn't drink on the medication. She has just moved onto some new medication which is a much better and she can drink on it. I arrange to meet her yesterday about a week ago and i rung her Sunday to talk and confirm. I preloaded into her head from the start that i had just been out the last 6 nights and the last two of the nights i didn't want to go out because i felt really ill and hungover but went out any way because i said to my friends i would before and that i don't like people who pull out of things, she unknowingly agreed with me. At the end of the chat she said she was going to bed and i said we are meeting tomorrow and she said she couldn't because she felt ill and i said "alright thats fine" she said she didn't realise and kept saying sorry and don't guilt me because the conversation was going silent. Not sure if i'm being a bit of an asshole here i just really want to see her. I'm going back to uni in a couple of weeks so wont have the opportunity again till easter. I do really enjoy speaking to her on the phone and we do chat for hours at night more than 3 times a week. Any ideas of how i can see her? Her illness only feels like flu she doesn't puke up or anything she just has a weak imune system and i still go out when i'm ill so i don't really understand it.

You are her girlfriend.

If you speak to a women on the phone for hours and still havent been out with her,

1) Not enough comfort
2) Friend zoned

Think about which one you fall under. I will how ever admit, if a girl does like you, she will want to look her best when meeting you. So if she is actually sick, then this might be a possibility.

You need to gauge her interest level yourself. What do you think? Is she attracted? Does she think you are a player? What is she talking about when you two talk? ect.. I don't need the answers, you do, and with them you can figure out what is going on.

I have comfort and at the moment you could say i am in the friend zone but as soon as i meet her it's only going to go sexual. She has always said she is up for coming to my uni and "being my girlfriend for the weekend" when she is better. Problem is she hasen't gone out with Anyone since she has been sick (i know this because i only speak to her at night and she always answers) and this is a girl who used to go out a lot and has blown her friends birthdays etc off. I do agree with wanting to look her best though i have thought about that quite a lot, she used to be overly like that when i went out with her.

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Kind of see it as a logistical problem tbh.

Any way spoke to her today she had the most sincere apology and said that she really wants to meet just doesn't want to see me when she's ill because she will not be at her best and said that she wants to see me when she's better. Haven't heard a apology from her as good as that and we went out for a year so think that preloading really hit her.

She has depression issues which i think can add to her feeling sick and she is on some drugs which do give bad side affects. Any way i like her all the same if it just be friends or if i'm going to get something sexual out of it and i enjoy her conversations so i'm quite happy with it. My opinion might change if she is going out but not willing to see me. I am seeing other girls any way and haven't got emotionally envolved again.