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I've been reading MM, and to use terms he uses, I have no frame, my confidence is shot, I have the usual approach anxiety, I've figured out I'm not doing what I want to be, and have no real idea what I want. I figured a course would help a lot because it would be a major investment, but I've made similar choices before and been done over. I've travelled across the world for women twice (once giving up something I'd always wanted) and figure if I did something like that... actually, that may be worth considering.
As for PUAs on here.. I don't know any of them, Is there any way I can see Field Reports, changes in who they are, etc.
Check out the Field Report section. I've only ever posted one, so you won't find out anything about me in there, but some of the other PMZ members might post there more regularly. If you want to see some of how I run my game, Tripp, Doc, or Starbuck run theirs, we all have Stickied threads at the top of this section that you can get a feel of our personalities from. That's not to say we're the only ones on here that will be doing workshops, just that those are right there, you'll need to look around more to find others.
As far as all those things you mentioned about yourself (not knowing what you want, realising you aren't doing what you want to be doing, not being confident, not having any frame), well sadly those are things that even Mystery is going to tell you he can't fix, you need to fix those yourself. No one can tell you what you want but you. No one can tell what career path is right for you, except you, hell I'll give you a perfect example.
After I started working on PUA really hard back in September, I realised I had a natural talent for psychology, its like a piece of me that I didn't know I had lost somewhere until I found it. For the past maybe 8 years I have been working towards becoming a Special Effects Technician, so I could blow up buildings and cars and design car crashes and building collapses and cool shit like that for movies and TV. I asked everyone important in my life what they saw me as, a psychologist, or an engineer (what I was doing to become an sfx tech). Out of about 15 people, only ONE person told me they could see me as a psychologist. Who cares, that's what I am and no one can tell me that, except me. Same thing goes for you, you need to figure it out for yourself.
Once you start taking control of your life and stop worrying about what you need to be doing, what other people want you to be doing and ditching the things you care about for other people (nothing is ever worth that, a compromise can always be made if the girl loved you enough to make her worth anything in the first place), then you'll have the confidence to live your own life. That's how you develop a frame. What you're looking to do is learn pickup as a way to make the rest of your life work, which doesn't really work. The key to being a good PUA is to make the rest of your life work, so that it makes you a better PUA, not the other way around.
So, put on some thinking music, toss on your thinking cap, find a comfortable spot and decide what you want from life, who you want to be and how you want to get there. Go back to the drawing board, its never too late. Once you figure those things out, get on your way to accomplishing those things and once you're on the road, then you should have the confidence because you know what you want in life and then you can establish frame. Someone with no idea of what they want out of life, or what they want to be can't have a frame, it just won't happen, I crush my roommates' frames every day because of that. They try to tell me how things are, make excuses and because I know they have no direction in life I can tell them they don't know anything and they know its true. Figure it out and this won't happen to you.
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