I recently lost a relationship due to being too much of a nice guy. It started off good, I was in control.. then she started pushing and didn't want sex often.

I eventually took back control saying ok since you don't like me, I'll take you home. She started crying.. I wasn't convinced, let her cry, told her to get ready.. but she kept asking why don't you like me? I gave my reasons.. long story short, we made up.. had good sex for a bit but again the problems came back.. and eventually the faults really showed when she cheated on me to have sex with another guy.

So I've realized the nice guy syndrome will cause me to be a doormat again and again for the girls. But how do I put my sexual needs like I want a blow job and to fuck or she doesn't fit my bill in a non needy manner?

Can anyone help me with phrasing it in the right non needy way so the girl gets the message without thinking I'm actually a needy guy?

Major props if you can help.

i have no problem getting other girls and replacing her with no hesitation whatsoever.

I personally don't like that article, I believe it is really insulting as nice guys are not stupid, they are misguided.


For example, I used to be the quintaessential nice guy, buying gifts, paying for expensive meals, avoiding sexual tension.
Was I like that because I was stupid? No!!
Was I like that because I had no confidence? Hell no!! I have always had tons of it.
I was like that because I was not understanding women.

Is not that nice guys are stupid or coward is that from their point of view, what they do makes sense... they are just wrong.

I really don't like how sometimes this "community" is disrespectful to the most confused type of guy there is, they are the victims if you ask me.