| Hello All,
I'm a new guy...I've studied some of this before and used it years ago to get a girlfriend of 5 years. Turned out to be the wrong one. So I'm back to polish my skills.
I learn best when I can see a basic overview of what I'm trying to do, like a flow-chart. So I want to write out what I understand (briefly) and get any help understanding the big picture possible.
I want to see a woman I'm interested in approaching (somewhere, right now there is a hottie trainer at my gym who I've got a good rapport going with), and basically:
1. See woman, approach and open. With Hottie Trainer I said I was thinking of dying my hair platinum blonde and should I go for it? She said absolutley, then I said I was worried I'd end up walking around the club looking like a cheesy James Bond euro-villain. Got a big laugh. Next time I saw her she ambushed me from a blindspot to ask why I hadn't gone blonde yet. I fumbled my answer, wasn't fun or funny or entertaining or cocky enough, she lingered around for a while just to be close to me but we were both caught up in side-chats with other people).
2. Mid-Game? This is where I transition to qualifying her, kino, fun games (e.g. palm reading), stories that escalate attraction/NLP, entertaining stories that paint me in a good light, and qualifying her to see if shes is the type of fun woman I'd like to spend my valuable time with, right?
3. End game...getting the phone number, asking her out for coffee? A date? Private time alone?
4. "Super Happy Adult Fun Time" (aka Sex).
I know that I have anxiety in my approach...I actually have panic disorder. Did years of therapy for it, have meds, do my best to push through it and not let it stop me. Currently doing a 50 approach training schedule, have approached 3-4 women so far. Plan to approach 50 and just give a single compliment and then move off. Just to work on the anxiety.
I also tend to be afraid to do kino and escalate, which is a bitch because I bet I'd be really good at it. I guess I'm afraid to be too obvious and get rejected, or something.
Any help anyone can provide would be helpful and appreciated. Again, I'm looking for good general overview to the whole process and references to specific resources to learn fun games (e.g. the getting to know you game, the lying game), kino excuses and more. I think there is also some magic in escalating verbally by being sexually playful or teasing, but how do you not cross the line from sounding like a guy comfortable with sexuality into a creeper who won't stop talking about sex?
Please advise, oh wise ones... _________________ -Fitzroyce
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