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So this is what happened yesterday:
I went to the club with some friends and we sat down at a quiet bar until some drunk HB 8.5 came up to us and said: HEEEEEEY!!!, WHERE ARE WE FROM!? (she was yelling a bit:P). So i told her i'm from X and i started to talk to her. Got to know her name and that she was into sports. I said: hey i get myself a drink, you want one too? ( I didn't kino by holding her hand or something, i hadn't had the chance to kino her at all by then) She nodded and walked with me to the bar. The next moment i looked at her she was hugging some random guy who was sitting there and flirting with him. It looked like they knew each other but still.
I also didn't have the courage to neg her, because the guy's friend were around him and i was on my own, didn't want to engage some sort of fight, they could beat me up easily if they wanted to. So i just walked away, and didn't look back at her.
My question: What the hell do you do if that happens?
I also struggle with approaching girls who are in company with a (few) guy(s) around them. How can u make them attracted without having the guy's want to beat you up?
How old are you?
Dudes that are around females at a bar aren't going to beat you up. If they tried they'd be in a lot of trouble. So you should get that attitude, or excuse out of your head. Besides, you don't have to neg in a situation like that.
Also, if a woman has any class about her, which it sounds like this one didn't, it's not a good idea to offer to buy them a drink. That's like 1960's stuff. Lets say you are just trying to be simple and either blow yourself out or escalate the situation on some trashy woman, it might be ok. I never offer to buy women drinks. It's not a high percentage move for a guy and there's a theory among a large majority of bar women that's a major strike against a guy.
One of my pet peaves in a bar is women approaching me. Especially drunk women. Like another guy on here said, those types are bouncing off men all night long. If they came to you they do it all the time and will continue to do it. Another thing to consider is that you look a little bit like a loser in a bar when you aren't talking or approaching or meeting any women, but the first one that starts talking to you, you act like you just won the lottery, which is what it sounds like you did. What I would have done probably, is either blow the woman off in the beginning, or if she was hot I might have let her sit down, but sent mixed signals with my eyes and body language about whether or not I was interested.
But, 1.)approaching me first, 2.)visibly drunk, that's 2 major strikes when I'm gaming women.