I don't pretend to be an expert or extremly successfull but there are a few things i have noticed which are for some reason never openly said.

1 inner game: If you have inner game issues, the best way to deal with it, the only way to deal with it in depth is threw psychotherapy. It could be psychoanalysis or TCC. This is not for crazy people, not necessarly expensive as most therapists will adapt what they take depending on your salary, and it will lead to quick results.

2 Freind zone: The freind zone does not exist. If you feel your stuck in it, it's because you are acting like a freind an not a potentiel mate. Change the way you act towards her, don't be her freind (doesn't mean become an asshole). take some time apart and start acting like you would if she were a girl you want to start dating, that means face time and escalation. This works.

3 routines: they are nice and all, they help us get started. I've used them. But choose carefully which you use. They have to be congruant with who you are. Or else the girl will feel your fake and if it works she we'll feel it later on. Any way these routines are nothing speacial. mostly they are just random scripts that have worked, any other oppening, or subject should work just as well. it's all about the delevery, the intent and the connection you establish. An you can establish a sexual connection over any topic. Just talk to her like you've known her for years. Of course the easiest is threw talking about sex.

4 Women aren't so different from us. They want sex, they crave it for a fact. Most of my freinds are women and just yesterday four different girls where complaining. one about her man taking it too slow, the other about some guys small penis, the other about her ex being back in town and just wanting to jump him, the last one was tired of never being hit on (and she's one of the hottest chicks ever). whcich brings us to point 5

5 Hot women are not always as in demand as they are made out to be. They dont get hit more frequently or get more special favores then others. They dont usually need a different type of game. If they do, they usually turn out to be snobs or high maintenance so who need's them? So if you see a pretty girl, man up. Go for it. Even if you fumble, stumble and fall, she won't bite your head of but if your lucky she might gently be bitting something else.


This is what i have learned. I think most of you will agree. If you don't i m open to dialogue. And i'm guessing there a few other points that can be included here. these are just a few that puped in my head. Hope this helps

Hey Jesus.

You make some good points, but i very much disagree with your first point. Through therapy is not the only way. You can change your inner game, if only you are prepared to change, determined to change.

Every thing you do, every routine you try, fail or success, adds to your inner game. Or so it should. Keep on going, keep trying, keep adapting when things go wrong. You get something out of it that is a huge inner game boost, namely experience.

And also, one is never meant to not feel any anxiety when approaching. As for me, i would really miss the thrill of an approach.

cheers!

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Hey LD,
Your right, i agree with you, but i never said it was the only way. I just said it's what allows you to make the most profound changes since it doesnt only revolve around game. And if i mentioned it, it's because nobody ever does when it's a viable option.
Experience helps of course, but some of us have so much inner game issues that getting that experience takes a lot of time, and since our efforts often start in faileur it becomes even harder.
Of course therapy isnt for everyone when it comes to game but i do belive everyone could benefit in some aspect of their life, at one point or another.

And even the best therapist will never be able to rid anyone completly of approche anxiety, he can just help you manage it or use it to your advantage.

Cheers man,
good luck in your endavours.

LD's right, definitely not the only way