I have a problem thats been bugging the shit out of my for awhile now and I just wanna know if theres any way to fix it. It goes like this...
2 years ago I met this HB8 and we really hit it off. I really had a thing for her but I was young and fairly inexperienced with women so I totally blew it. I thought there was mutual attraction so I told her that I was into her, but she gave me the LJBF. I played it off as cool as I could and we left it at that. Fast forward about a year and a half...
we remained good friends and still communicate regularly, and by this time I haven't thought of us as more than friends for awhile. At this point in my life Im much more experienced and have been with several girls and have had 2 gfs (one of which at this point was my current gf). And this is where my story starts getting shitty...
if you've lost track of my story, this is 6 months ago. I start going out with this girl, super cute, and Im really into her. But all of a sudden 2 weeks into our relationship I get a call from the original HB8, who at this point is a solid HB9(btw at this point she doesn't know i have a gf) and says(in so many words)

HB9:Ive realized that I really like you and kinda have for awhile. I understand if you've totally moved on but I would really like to see where our relationship could go
Me: Im sorry, ur timing couldn't be worse. I have a gf now.
HB9: Oh ok.... yeah I'm sorry I should've known there was another girl.

After this all those old feeling I had before came back and they really fucked with my relationship. I fought through them and ended up dating my gf for 5 months. So here we are now and I just dumped my girlfriend like a month ago. Yesterday I had a long conversation with the HB9 and told her how i felt:

Me: I know you've prob moved on, but I still have feelings for you and I just want to know what your thoughts were. (in so many words)
HB9: I mean obviously we've always been different than just friends, and we've never been able to give our relationship a label and I care about you a lot... but i think your right that I've kinda moved on and right now just friends would be best.

FUCK ME! i just can't win. Is there any way I can get her to return the feelings? or have I just made too many mistakes with this one... At the moment I have a kinda FWB things with another girl, but I'm willing to drop all that for the HB9.

*sorry for the long read*

i could really use some advice on this one

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Well if im already writing, i'll also reply.

If she said she moved on, there's probably not alot of ways you can saved this but what you can learn is that instead of explaining to her how you have feelings and stuff you could have come alot easier by just asking her whats up and if she wants to meet.
And saying something like "I know you probably moved on" really reallllllllllllllllllllly lowers you value mate...so dont say that. ever.
maybe she'll come around one day. but i wouldnt count on her mate

yeah thats my thoughts too. its just that she's told me we should just be friends before then later on spilled out all her feelings.

And as I told " i know you've probably moved on..." i knew I was shooting myself in the foot... but this is one girl I have bad oneitis for and it affects my game around her. Thanks for the feedback tho.

the rule is once you start looking for help with one girl, you already lost

"I know you're prob moved on" gives her value, she's going to take advantage and follow this frame because now she thinks she be moved on, if that makes sense. Also, it doesn't matter if she has moved on or not, you can still get back her feelings if you just act as her friend just as before!