I am sorry if, as a female, it's inappropriate for me to be asking advice here (if so can you please direct me to another site I can go to for help?!), but I can't find any active female PUA communities, and I am really frustrated because I just want to get laid FFS!

I am a 26 year old single woman with no desire to have children. I am obsessed with sex, not because of an abnormality in my libido, but because I enjoy it so much that it often becomes a psychological fixation for me.

I have a problem with men losing interest in having sex with me, despite having been told numerous times by different men that I am good in bed. I have discussed this with my psychologist and a like minded friend who suffers the same problem, and we have come up with the following possibilities:

- I scare them off because I like sex more than they do
- I'm too easy and they've got me wrapped around their little finger so they get bored really quickly because they don't have to earn it / work for it / it's not a challenge / there's no thrill of the chase and then they feel like "okay, been there, done that"
- Men aren't actually as obsessed with sex as they like everyone to think they are, so they're mostly all talk and no action
- They find my love of sex / confidence / sexual liberation emasculating somehow
- They feel like they can't seduce me, because I'm already seduced, so then they don't feel like they've achieved anything that panders their ego
- They find my upfront attitude unusual and don't know what to make of it
- Instinctually and / or from the traditional Christian culture, the attitude of "women shouldn't enjoy sex" hasn't quite dissipated yet, despite it no longer being relevant
- When push comes to shove, they're really just a bunch of backward misogynists
- They are too insecure to handle a sexually confident woman

A lot of overgeneralising there, but I think you get the idea.

I find the vast majority of men to be very unattractive and I live in an isolated city with a fairly small population, so I cannot afford to scare them off like this!

Perhaps I shouldn't be so forward, but I tend to find that men are absolutely hopeless at picking up on hints, so it's very difficult to strike the right balance, especially because every guy and situation is different.

I also do find the concept of playing games to be very grating to my person and already feel that I take that as far as I can bear by being careful to act more casual than I really want to, as I am well aware that being too keen / clingy / available is never attractive. Not to mention the fact that I find controlling myself intensely frustrating!

Also, I know it's been said that if seeking a romantic relationship, one should not sleep with the guy on a first date, and that one should be in tune with how to please oneself in order to show such restraint. While I don't particularly mind either way whether or not I get a relationship, as long as I get to have sex, perhaps given my situation a relationship would be the best way to guarantee that my sexual needs are met.

My problem is that although I have plenty of sex toys and enjoy watching pornography, I find masturbation in general to be quite boring, and usually after orgasming I end up feeling more frustrated because I haven't had intercourse with a real person.

Also, I am not sure I understand exactly why it is so important to abstain from sex at the beginning of a relationship, aside from when it comes to a man's attitude towards female sexual liberation. In that case, I would just like to say that where I am fussy when it comes to who I choose to have sex with, I am even more discerning when it comes to having a relationship with a man, and I would definitely consider him sharing similar sexual values to mine as being fairly non-negotiable. And such a man would not view me in a negative light or rule me out as relationship material just for sleeping with him on a first date.

I would be extremely grateful if any of you could provide a male perspective, as well as any advice or suggestions in relation to the matters I have raised. Thank you in advance for taking the time to read this.

This is fake. This is written by a man. Do any of you really believe a sexually aggressive woman needs "help" and goes to a pick up artist forum to find it? ABSOLUTE HORSESHIT.

she's surprised to learn about the two male needs of:
- female attention
and
- sex

when women have the two needs of:
- male attention
and
- sex

wow, this is deep stuff.

i feel enlightened already.

This is fake. This is written by a man. Do any of you really believe a sexually aggressive woman needs "help" and goes to a pick up artist forum to find it? ABSOLUTE HORSESHIT.

^Are you a guy? I'm impressed by your hysterical female voice.

I haven't read that much of this thread, but it seems rather full of troll now.. Start a new thread for any additional questions?

^Are you a guy? I'm impressed by your hysterical female voice.

Awwww did I hurt your feeewings by pointing out you got duped? Sorrrrrryyy

I haven't read that much of this thread, but it seems rather full of troll now.. Start a new thread for any additional questions?

guys this is a girl, she is cool as shit too, lets' get back on topic! but i think she told me she already got her answers form 60 yoc... cool!

so basically I'm fucked if I do and fucked if I don't

if you choose what would you do

1. chose a friendship who really cares about you
2. sex

which one would you chose ?

il bet you are the kind of woman who doesn't gives a shit about other peoples feelings... you only have fucking self-interests anyway.

if you want sex that bad ... if you want no hassle and other shit then why don't you jsut become a pornstar .. this way society don't have to deal with your screwed up mind and you are a good addition to the pornindustry anyway... you have watched so much porn il bet you have talent.